There are 5 attitudes of the Ego, which do not allow us to grow, personally, spiritually and lovingly. However, these attitudes should not be eliminated, since they are part of the psyche of man. These attitudes or main mental habits are those that include the authentic and unconditional presence and make others, do not feel loved. These involuntary reactions of our mind are present in all people.
1.- The fear.
It is fear or concern for a person, which leads us to be constantly on the defensive, this happens because many people despite being tied to the need to love and be loved tend to feel fear, because that person or relationship which is having, play or hurt their feelings, and so still lack those affections or psychological needs, that when children were hurting and incapacitating the psychic state. That is why fear keeps us from maintaining a healthy and loving relationship.
2.- The desire
When we talk about desire, I mean our personal demands or expectations that we have towards the other person. May that moment or personal relationship that we are living satisfy our own needs and desires, basing the relationship on "I am looking for something from you or from this."
3.-The trial
The prosecution of our partner, traps us in the opinion we have about her or about the relationship, this attitude can be presented in the form of criticism, humor, moralism, positive or negative predisposition, censorship, labeling or guilt; It is important to know that we are not judges and that to start judging a person, it is better to start with oneself.
4.- The Control.
This attitude is based on forcing our partner to accept our point of view, opinion or approach, it is one of the most negative and toxic attitudes, which generates in people the need to fix, persuade and change you to the point that you feel obligated. to put the ideas of the other before you, for yours, this refers to the controlling people.
5. The Illusion.
This attitude attitude changes the perspective of things, dominates and subjugates reality, occurs when we have an idea, image or belief about someone, it is hidden who is really!
The intention of this post is not that you reject these attitudes, but redirections, the energy they present in order to serve and serve others, likewise:
Fear can be changed by wise caution.
Desire makes it possible to get to the things we want.
The trial includes an intelligent evaluation.
Control is necessary in most daily activities.
Fantasy or illusion, is the springboard to imagination or creativity.
Change the perspective of your mind so that it changes the perspective of your life.