Somehow the situations try to regulate our actions by the emotions that emerge, disregarding that rational side, which chooses to intelligently face any event, when a vision is not obtained to be captures the complete drawing that it will bring what is lived.
"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
The personification of this attitude is shown by Agar, the Egyptian servant of Sarai, concubine and who would give a son to Abram, she did not expect that relations with her mistress would to go to change radically, so the harsh treatment and the heavy load were triggers to make the decision to flee in spite of his condition, forgetting that his attitude towards his wife when she knew she was pregnant was not the correct one, becoming the root of all these contrary reactions. History lets us see that perhaps she herself did not know where she would go, only that leaving was her first choice, to get away from the discomfort that surrounded her. In a spring of water, along the road that leads to Shur, he met the angel of the Lord, who, despite knowing what was happening, addressed him with questions: Where do you come from? Where are you going?
"And he said, Hagar, slave of Sarai, where have you come from, and where are you going?" Genesis 16:8
The angel initiates the questions according to Hagar's position, place and that he could notice that he did not have a concrete plan, in spite of the reply where he indicated that he was fleeing from his mistress, urges him to return and submit to the authority of Sarai, speaking of his present and future, points to that Ismael who would come, depositing in Agar the conviction of a purpose with the feeling of meeting with someone who knew him perfectly, and is that she being Egyptian very possibly rested in polytheistic beliefs, so it is to be assumed that this fear and communion did not exist, more than that seen in Abram, but God manifested himself without accepting a person, showing himself close and interested in what happened in his life, this is how he arrives to refer to the angel: "He who sees me" and decide to follow the advice to return from where he had fled.
Maybe what Hagar lived is not the same situation we went through yesterday or the present, but from her story we could extract the words: Discomfort, Emotion, Choice, Way of Escape, Purpose and Growth and insurance to build something in our present, very linked to emotions and is the difficulty in interpersonal relationships, disagreements, misunderstandings, generating families, friendships, and broken work organizations, but why? Apparently communicate effectively is an art, as it is to act with emotional intelligence, it is easy to flee by shielding us in silence, the attitude of revenge, the whatsaap and email that we throw in the distance, being able to choose to approach us to talk face to face with a Assertive language that breaks down those barriers and enjoy overcoming all those inconveniences.
I remembered "surfer soul", a film based on the biography of Bethany Hamilton who, at the moment frustrated by her condition and lost after the shark attack, hesitated to give up on what He loved, so receiving a wise counsel and watching closely the overcoming of others he inspired, they filled him with courage not to look at limitations and be who he is today.
Every conflict has two paths; one that guides us to face and wait for the peaceful fruits that will come from it and another one with routes of escapism that rob us of the opportunities to continue growing, of overcoming ourselves. There is a popular saying that says: "What does not kill you makes you stronger" The Bible teaches that even we are considered to be the gold that is refined and tested when passing through fire and that while things like this happen, in principle we do not It causes joy, but we must trust that those who are exercised in these, will see fruits, we are called to be guided by correct choices and not by emotions.