Hello dear friends, today I want to touch a topic that is quite delicate, because when we decided to get married and start a family, we never thought that someday that marriage would end, we bet everything and give the best of each one to make the relationship work, however there are relationships that do not achieve the necessary understanding and end up taking the decision to end it, even if a separation by mutual agreement will always be a painful process and even more so when we have children involved.
Children are the most affected, those who suffer with this decision. Of course, the separation is between the couple, but it is inevitable that our children will be affected, no doubt depends on the attitude of the parents, the way in which the children will bring their pain.
Then I will mention some techniques that can be put into practice when facing this difficult situation.
As parents, take a moment to sit down to talk with your children, leave aside the feeling of a couple and think about the welfare of your children, explain that things will start to change, and that even though Mom and Dad will not be together, they will create methods to maintain the parent-child relationship intact. Remember that a cordial treatment between the parents gives a better emotional stability to the children.
Do not ignore that when there is a separation, even if it is not wanted, emotions within the family are usually affected. As a father, show your child that it is normal for feelings of fear and insecurity to be present in him, but teach them how to cope and control them.
Let them know that divorce is only a matter of couples, but that children still have the same place for parents. And even if they no longer live together, they will always maintain communication to continue guiding him in their journey.
Avoid parents acquiring negative behaviors with each other, much less in front of children, this uncomfortable situation causes much suffering to children, and may even have a consequence on their behavior in a negative way.
When talking about separation with your child, avoid giving many explanations, for them it is important to know whether or not there was a guilty party. Just let him know that you will be there for him whenever they need it.
Do not be alarmed if you observe behavioral changes in your child, as they show that education and attention to how parents have not changed, everything will return to normal little by little.
If you put into practice the above, you will get very good results, which I tell you that I have been separated from the father of my eldest daughter for 6 years, and today we continue working together to take our daughter on the right path. Thank you for having read my publication, I hope you leave me your comments if you have had to live this difficult situation and how has been your experience. A big hug your friend 