Hey! Hey!! Hey!!! It is here again from the stables of Zizy production comes another mind blowing episode of "Saturday Night with Zizy" Episode 19. Like some people said on the episode 18, this show is officially an adult, lmao. Yes it is another beautiful Saturday evening on the block chain and where better to spend your evening than on my blog getting beautiful relationship talks, dating tips and helping people solve their relationship issues and of cos the fun corner here to make you laugh. I sincerely apologise for not responding to messages as at when I was supposed to. It was due to some circumstances beyond my control.
Nevertheless I shall take this time out to appreciate those who always make it a point of duty to come around and drop well meaning comments. I am so grateful and I wish I can show you just how much grateful I am. To 
Without much Ado, DJ play the music in jenifa's voice. LOL
RELATIONSHIP TALK WITH ZIZY
Relationships are so tough these days but even tougher is the way most of them end leaving one person in a confused state of what could have possibly gone wrong. Almost everyone who has been in a relationship has experienced ghosting, some more than once. Some breakups are peaceful and you still reman friends while many end acrimoniously. When a relationship ends, everyone deserves a reason at least to understand why. You don't just ghost hoping they will catch the cue that it simply means the relationship is over.
WHAT IS GHOSTING?
Ghosting is an act of breaking up an intimate relationship by disconnecting all form of contact or communication with your partner without any apparent warning and with no justification and also ignoring their attempt to reach out to you or efforts to communicate.
As much as this makes you a coward, some people view ghosting as an easy way to signal the end of a relationship. They simply disappear and ignore their partner's calls, texts even social media messages without any explanation. It is a heartless behavior because in reality all you are doing is making your partner figure it out for themselves that they have been dumped. This could be very traumatic for the partner being ghosted because some won't understand why the sudden disappearance especially if everything has been going well and the future was looking promising. This leaves them wondering and waiting causing undue suffering.
Ghosting is a form of stonewalling. We might all have been ghosted before and even done it to someone. Ghosting isn't exclusive to relationships alone as it happens even in friendships. The Advent of social media makes it the more easy. It is a lot easier to block someone you met on a dating app because you don't have friends in common and were not introduced via any channel and so disappearing wouldn't affect you in any way.
People who ghost do not put into consideration the feelings of the other person. Some of them are of the school of thought that what will be will be and do not make any extra effort to work out any differences they may be having with their partner. If you are not ready for a serious relationship, you should be mature enough to communicate that thought to your partner instead of ghosting. Ghosting is at the bottom of the totem pole as far as accepted and mature means of ending a mature relationship is concerned.
WHY DO PEOPLE GHOST?
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Ghosting is an attempt by some people to avoid the awkwardness of having to explain their reason for giving up on a relationship. It is an easy way out and no need to watch your partner cry or beg for your love. It could also be that the other person has no major interest in pursuing the relationship any further. It could be that to him/her, it was just a spark of the moment.
Dating app is another reason why people ghost. It makes it so easy to block someone without any prior warning and move on with the next available single and ready to mingle. Some do it because they are afraid of commitment and the relationship is probably moving faster than they expected. Some have had it happen to them or their friends and have become desensitized to it and this brings about the likelihood of they doing it to someone else.
No matter the reason for ghosting, it is a lazy and very disrespectful behavior. A relationship that wasn't even significant to a person can take weeks to get over not because the relationship was fantastic but because some people can't handle being left without explanation.
WHY GHOSTING IS BAD
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It keeps the other person waiting. When you disappear without a word, it leaves your partner dazed spending weeks and perhaps even months hoping that something wrong didn't happen and you may return. They put their lives on a hold with much patience whereas you are long gone and moved on.
It shatters your partner: Breakup is hurtful enough but breaking up without a word completely shatters your partner. It doesn't matter that you are doing it to avoid the emotional moment that goes with breakup, ghosting breaks heart and kills self esteem of your partner leaving them traumatized wondering if it was ever worth it.
It kills any chance of trust. Ghosting makes you appear secretive. Why would you suddenly disappear if you have no hidden secrets? Why would you just fall off the face of the earth after you have promised forever? Ghosting kills any chances of trust your partner has for you.
Instead of ghosting, just say it is all over. Do not use someone. If the relationship is having turbulent time, talk about it. Dialogue resolves a lot of things. Do not throw away a relationship because of resolvable issues. If you are confused, do not even start a relationship in the first place. Respect your partner.
It is only an immature person that thinks it is okay to just avoid a relationship completely. Grow up. Before ghosting someone you have dated for a time, consider the chances that you may encounter the person again and he awkwardness that would create. Consider their feelings.
DATING TIPS
Be an open book. They either deal with it or they can't. if you can't be your most honest self with your partner, just know someday it will come out eventually. You can't pretend forever. Make those mistakes, someone who love you would stay and help you become better.
FUN CORNER (JUST FOR LAUGHS)
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Dating someone for four years without any sign of marriage is no longer a relationship, it is now a course. You are simply studying relationship management and analysis. (If you are in this department please find your coursemates).
DEAR ZIZY
ANONYMOUS 1
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I like this boy in my class and I told him by writing a letter and telling him someone else asked me to give it to him but he didn't believe me and kept asking if it was me. Being under pressure, I told him the truth. Now my problem is I don't even if he is angry or not because he is a nice guy. He simply told me he is not interested in a relationship but now I can't even attend my lectures for fear of seeing him. I don't know if he has told his friends about it. I feel so stupid. It's not like I wanted a relationship too because I have never been in one, I just felt it is right I let him know I'm crushing now. Please what do I do?
FEEDBACK FROM SATURDAY NIGHT WITH ZIZY EPISODE 15
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Dear Zizy, my world has come crumbling down. I don't have the will to move on anymore. After I told you about my boyfriend acting strange, I decide to heed to the advice from some of the comment and went to visit him unannounced. Hmm my God. Why are men so wicked? On getting to his compound I met no one at home and when I enquired from the lady selling in front of his house, I was told he travelled because that Saturday was his wedding. How I got back to my base I cannot explain. I checked Facebook and noticed he blocked me but I still was able to see his pre-wedding pictures on the wall of one of our mutual friends. It's just that steemit has taken so much of my time and I no longer Facebook if not I would have known all these was going on. I am very heartbroken. I hope I heal and get over him. Men are scumbags. They are evil. None should be trusted. I am serious Zizy. I hope they all burn in hell. Thank you for your time.
CONCLUSION
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Until next time when I come your way again, same time, same blog, more hosts, I remain
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