You've covered everything. I think there is hardly anything to add.
What a pleasure to find this reflecting and calm position about payment (besides the bollock! ;-)) but that I give credit for we need to get attention somehow.

Funny, just today I had a client with me in the consultation who brought a similar topic with her. Just like another one that wasn't about money, but about recognition. Those who have no self-esteem and can only be satisfied when someone else attributes this value to them will never be satisfied. They will always feel a lack. And in the worst case, blame others for this lack.

In those cases where I don't receive what I deserve, it's either that the other person doesn't really have a budget or that he is trying to over-benefit me (and I let him) or that I have chosen a bad moment for the negotiation (and must find a better time). With the expectation of immediate success is what one must be careful with. Patience is the key.

I like very much your way of thinking. Bummer, nothing to debate here. LOL

P.S. I cannot complain about my income. I've chosen it to be small. Because, if I would demand more that would have effects on my overall life concept and I decided to reduce to the max. If this will change, my income has to change with me.