The child is a trust for both parents. So, we as parents are responsible for this mandate. Not a few mistakes and negligence in educating children has become a real phenomenon. What a great catastrophe; and including betraying God's trust.
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As for home, is the first school for children. A collection of several houses will form a community building. For a child, before getting education in school and community, he will get education at home and his family. He is the prototype of both parents in social interaction. Therefore, this is where the roles and responsibilities of parents, are required not to be negligent in educating children.
1. Provide a Negative Statement
Sometimes parents get angry with their children who do not do what they say. If children are asked to move forward in extracurricular activities involving their parents, but they refuse, then their parents say, "You are like a shy person!" On another occasion if parents ask their child to do something but he does not do it , they say, "You're so lazy!"
Such types of statements can hurt your children's feelings. They will be as their parents say. It would be very dangerous if statements such as "You are stupid!", "You are naughty!" Said to our children.
Instead, say positive things to your children. If your children receive bad grades, do not say, "You're so stupid!"; Say something else. For example, say, "If you learn better, you'll get better grades than this because you're actually a smart kid."
2. Educating It to Be Arrogant, Lengthy Tongue, Congolese Against Others. And that's considered a brave attitude
This error is the opposite of error number 1. The truth is to be middle, not excessive and not less-subtract. Dare not to be arrogant or arrogant to others. But a courageous attitude of harmony in place and fear if something is to be feared. For example: the fear of lying, because he knows, if God does not like children who lie, or fear of dangerous beasts. We educate our children to be brave and not afraid to practice the truth.
3. Compare Children
Having more than one child may result in comparing your child to one another. If the second child can not wear clothes as fast as his brother, do not say, "Look at your brother, he can do it quickly. Why can not you do it too? "
Comparisons will only make your child feel confused and become less confident. Children may even hate their parents because they always get ill treatment from that comparison (against siblings, siblings, or other children), whereas the development of each child is different.
Rather than comparing your children, parents should help to solve them. For example, when children have trouble wearing their clothes while their relatives can do it faster, parents should help them to do it right.
4. Advise Children When Anger and Too Often Advise
Remember that the child's feelings are very sensitive. When parents come home from work or after an exhausting activity and mind, then find the behavior of children who are not good then you should not rush to give advice to children. If the condition of parents in a state of tired and angry, feared good advice will be mixed with emotional outbursts. This can lead to misunderstandings that lead to contention.
Advice is a good thing, with advice parents want to show good and bad things so that children can do things positive and avoid negative things that are harmful. But if the advice is given too detailed and in intensity that too often, it is feared that advice can not be captured and understood by the child. Even an intelligent child may not be able to grasp the meaning of too much explanation.
5. Say it Fast!
When a family goes to an event and a child is slow in doing things, like wearing a shirt or a shoe, parents often shout, "Hurry!"
This attitude does not educate your children to do things faster, especially if shouting is also accompanied by pointing fingers and a loud voice. This will make the child feel scared, guilty, and will not make them move faster.
6. Give Praise with Ease
Apparently, giving praise easily is also not a good thing. Giving praise will easily seem "cheap". Therefore if a child does something simple, there is no need to compliment with "Extraordinary! Extraordinary! "Because the child will naturally know the things he does with mediocrity or extraordinary.
The above attitudes are often practiced in children by their parents. It looks simple but can produce bad characters if not avoided. Therefore, among societies whose conditions appear to be sad these days, improvements must start from the family, so let us treat our children well.
7. Be less respectful
One of the obligations of the child is to respect and honor both parents. But parents must also realize that children also have the right to be respected, this is often overlooked. One thing to note is that a child is also a human being who also needs an award. Appreciate and guard their feelings by behaving and speaking subtly. Be a model. Because what parents do will be captured by the memory of the child and they will be very easy to imitate.
8. Not Loving And Loving Them, So It Makes Them Seek Mercy Outside the House To Find The One Looked For.
This phenomenon happens a lot. Has caused children to fall into promiscuity. A girl, for example, does not get the attention of her family she seeks attention from men outside her family environment. He was glad to get the attention of the man, for he often praised him, seduced and so on. Until he was willing to give up his honor for the sake of false love.
9. Just Paying Attention to Their Physical Needs.
Many parents think that they have given the best for their children. Many parents feel they have provided good education, nutritious food and drinks, good clothes and quality schools. Meanwhile, there is no attempt to educate his children to be religious properly and have a noble character. Parents forget, that children are not enough just given the material only. Children also need attention and affection. If love is not in the house, then he will seek it from others.
10. Too Prejudiced Good to His Children
There are some parents who are always prejudiced both to their children. Supposing, if the children are okay and feel there is no need to worry about, never check the circumstances of his children, not knowing his child's close friends, or whatever the activities. Strongly believe in his children. When suddenly, to find the child affected by calamity or deviant symptoms, such as exposure to drugs, then the parents startled. Trying to cover it up and immediately forgive him. Finally what's left is the useless remorse.
Such are the ten mistakes parents often make. Which we may also not realize when it has done it. For that, let us strive to continuously seek knowledge, especially with regard to children's education, so that we avoid mistakes in educating children, which can be fatal consequences for their future. We always pray, may our children grow into the generation of shalihah and shalihah and morality.
