There is no person who has not experienced a situation that causes pain, wound or insult. This pain is normal, but for some it lasts for a long time. They live the pain more and more and with the passage of time it is difficult to forget or get rid of this feeling. This makes the individual feel miserable and destroys his relationship with others, and distracts his focus in the work and does not make him accept any new relationship or indulging in a new job. Holding onto the wounds of the past makes us fall In the trap of anger and pain, we lose any sense of happiness and beauty around us.
At the start of each new year, one of the best things you can do or learn is "Let the past go by and don't stick to it." Getting attached to the past is not healthy because it brings the old feeling of pain, anger and sadness, which prevents you from feeling happy or the sincere feelings of those around you who are friends or family in the present or the future.
Now you have to follow the following so that you can move forward towards the future, not backwards to the wounds of the past and the pain and sadness that it caused:
Express your feelings:
Cry, cry, talk to a loved one about your wounds and pain. The key to the solution here is not to avoid expressing how you feel. This will make the situation worse. Show your sadness if you are sad, show your anger if you are angry, suffer and do not be ashamed to show your pain. The important thing is to feel and show what you feel, take a bath or cry until you feel that you have breathed your pain and your sadness. Talk to someone you trust about the pain, humiliation, and anger you felt. Do not be shy to tell those you feel their love and devotion to you. Speak and complain until you empty your grief and sorrows go away and forget them over time and you can continue on your way forward.
Commit to abandoning the past:
You may not feel that you are still living in the past, sit with yourself and talk to her openly and ask her about the reason for your behavior towards a specific situation in a different way from the rest of your behavior towards similar situations. You will discover that you are still feeling the pain and anger of what happened to you in the past. From the wounds of the past and its pain and sorrows. But you must know that this will not happen in a day or two, it will take time, but the important thing is that you start to forget and abandon the past. Imagine that your sad thoughts fly outside your head and swim in space away from you and that they took with them all the feeling of sadness, pain or anger.
Stop talking about what happened and your pain in the past:
The more you talk about the past, the more you will feel pain and anger. Repeating this Hadith brings life to events that have caused you pain, anger, and sadness. If you stop talking about the past, you will have closed a page of your life with all its pain and opened a new, quiet and pain-free page. To do this, you must remove your guilt from the mistake you made. Mistake is a life lesson from which we learn rightness and help us to mature. So do not feel ashamed as long as you will not return to this error no matter what happens and pledge yourself to stick to it.
Think about what you have and what you need:
Think about the problems caused by past stinginess. Do they affect your relationships with others? In the family? Do they hinder you from achieving your dreams of becoming a better person? At the ear, think about tolerating yourself and the other until you get rid of the past and the feelings of anger and pain in it, and become free and go to the future with a heart and a mind free of hatred.
Realize that you have the choice:
You cannot control the behavior of others and do not even think about trying. But you can control your behavior and thoughts. You can stop thinking about the past and its pain and remember that it was the past that passed and passed. You can choose to forget and move forward, not backward. This power is within you, it is only required that you take it out and learn to exercise it.
Understand your responsibility:
Remember, in part, you were involved in the event. You could have done something to prevent what happened in the past and what might happen in the present. This does not mean that you are to blame for the event or bear the responsibility on behalf of the original actor, but you must realize that you are not a victim but you are a person involved in life and its events.
Focus on the present:
Now that I have reviewed the past and discovered that it is past, focus on the present. What happened has happened and it has passed and it has passed and will not come back again unless you absorb the lesson and benefit from it. Kick these ideas out of your head. Of course from time to time you will remember but it will be just a memory, shake your head with lightning, expel these thoughts and quickly return to the present and say "this was Past and finished