Ever been in a new environment, like a workplace, a new school, or whatever makes us feel strange? Starting a friendship in a new place certainly needs a way for other people to accept us, if necessary they are happy with our presence.
There are some tips for people to like us, so that the next relationship gets better.
1. Really interested in others
The first way to make other people like us is by showing interest in others. Interested in others can mean hanging out and interacting with others.This is closely related to the level of social intelligence we have. The better social intelligence we have, the easier it will be for us to get along and interact with others. This is what later will make other people like us.
In addition, we will get more friends within 2 months by being interested in others compared to what we get within 2 years by trying to get other people interested in you.
2. Smile
A Michigan psychologist once said: "People who smile, tend to be able to overcome, teach and sell more effectively and raise happier children ".
With a smile to the person we meet, shows that we are happy to meet him. A sincere smile means that we're happy. And pleasure is one form of positive emotion that we can "transmit" to others. This pleasant condition allows us to interact better.
What if at that time we were having problems? Force yourself to smile. Train ourselves to be able to smile, however the problem squeezes us. By forcing yourself to smile, will be able to reduce feelings of anger / anger / sadness that arise due to problems.
An ancient Chinese saying: "A person without a smiling face should not open a shop". What is the meaning of the saying? Yes, the smile given by the shopkeeper, will make the buyer feel happy to shop at the store which in turn will become a loyal customer.
The broader meaning is that smiling at someone will make that person like us and everything related to us (including our business).
3. Remember someone's name
Is the reader sure that the average person is interested in his own name rather than the name of someone else in the world? Therefore, for us to be liked by others we need to name the person when we meet him. Remember the person's name well, and call that name in a friendly tone. If that has already been done, then it means we have given praise to him.
Be careful, do not get the wrong name, because it will cause a bad taste in the hearts of people who have names. Therefore, for us to be liked by others, let's practice to remember someone's name.
4. Be a good listener.
God created man with one mouth and two ears. This means we are asked to listen more than speak. Become a good listener. People prefer a good listener than a good speaker. Being a good listener is a skill and ability that is rare and difficult to have.
Dale Carnegie reminded that: "the person you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in themselves, desires, their problems are compared to their interest in you and your problems "
Therefore, we need to learn and have the skills to be good listeners. God willing, the author will try to write this thing in the future.
5. Make others feel important
The last way put forward by Carnegie is for someone to feel himself important. If we are only selfish, so that we are unable to give attention and appreciation to others, we will fail.
Feeling ourselves important and underestimating others is not a commendable attitude. That will cause hatred towards us. People will tend to stay away from us.
6. Talk about other people's interests
As stated above, that people prefer and are interested in talking about things related to themselves. One of them is the interest he had. If you know that the person you are talking to likes political problems, invite him to talk about the current political situation.
Show him that you are also interested in political issues by giving various responses. Encourage Him to speak further about it, giving rise to enthusiasm in them.
There is an enthusiasm to talk with us, and our desire to talk about things of interest is what will make him enjoy us. He feels comfortable and comfortable hanging out with us.
One last thing that should be owned is: sincerity. Without a sincere heart, someone will not survive by trying to please others so that the person turns to like us. However, the 6 steps above can be summarized in one main rule: **"Do (good things) that you want others to do to you." **