It is such a hard balance. Both my kids now have phone (they are in middle school), but we have lots of rules: no phones in their bedrooms; no pc or phones after 6pm. Also no phones when we are out together, I hate it when you see friends/families and they are not communicating with each other, but all on their phones!

We drag them out every day walking, to the beach - or sometimes just to have ice-cream together in the city centre.

If they are playing computer games we also encourage them to play the same game and use discord to chat with each other and their friends as they play - I think it helps to keep it social rather than in isolating experience.

I fought against the tech invasion for so long, but in the end you just have to try and find a path through the maze ......