Good morning everyone..
It is no secret that our understanding of ourselves and our psyche plays an important role in determining our personal happiness. We all suffer from a number of convictions that we have gained from previous experiences and from the disincentives we deal with daily, which make our lives easier than we expect.
We sometimes think that we are not good enough; because we have not reached a certain point in our lives at that predetermined moment, leading to a sense of fear of failure or simply of society's assessments of us.
But before we do anything, we will need to first begin with a better psychic to correct our thoughts and perceptions and reduce the accumulated negative that we are used to seeing ourselves.
These five crucial rules will enable you to see yourself and the world more simply if you can gain the rules as a permanent life habit.
- People do not care as much as you think
This fact may seem a bit harsh at first, but it is originally an unavoidable fact and very convenient if you realize it correctly. Because we are trapped in the corner of the expectations of others and do all we do only answer to the question of what he thinks about me and what I expect to tell me, this is the hell in particular and will return to us this behavior systematic psychological destruction; because they do not care about our lives fully, Only on broad lines that we all share.
Keep these words in your mind Most of what we think about people's thoughts about us are just assumptions created by our minds based on our past experiences, or on incorrect perceptions and interpretations.
Being yourself without putting any prior considerations on others' reactions and expectations about you is your first and most fundamental step in your own happiness.
- We change constantly
You must have experienced this feeling well at some point, that your past self is different from your present self, and will differ from the future according to the different data you deal with, the surrounding circumstances around you and your never-ending experiences, which will ultimately create your mind.
Because of all this, you have to be honest with your present self when you make a decision or step away from the prison of the past and future ghosts. We can never predict how our future selves will think, and how you will feel about this or that.
And also all that has happened in the past is not ours belongs to that self that died and dumped ashes with the wind. Intellectual and psychological power must be for the present moment only.
- Comparison does not work (stop comparing yourself to others)
In the presence of the means of social communication thick, especially have become mostly an integral part of the lives of many, which in turn motivates them unconsciously to share their most beautiful moments in their condition and their migration, which may conceivably portray the most important and unreal that the whole life goes like this with them, and their lives immersed in the bliss while Your life is fraught with obstacles, beginning with an undesirable comparison of life and reality that is not ideal only for virtual reality.
Even in real life we all tend to show the bright aspects of our lives, and we hide flaws and flaws for fear of being judged or rejected by others.
But the truth is that we are all so frail and weak. Therefore, it is foolish and a great waste of time to believe that someone is better than us, and that his life walks in a steady pace while our lives are struggling with some obstacles.
The comparison and the feeling that we are less fortunate than each other is deadly and useless; for even all those who are strong and we think are fortunate have spaces of anxiety and fear nesting in their depths.
4 - Your advice and the juice of your experiences will not always be heard, do not be discouraged
You may find your dear friend in real trouble and you know exactly what he needs to do to get out of this dilemma with minimal losses. But you are crying out to those who shout while trying in vain to advise him what to do in vain.
It may be frustrating then, because first and foremost you want to help and fear the consequences.
In fact, he will not take your advice unless he can see things from the same angle that you see with the same mentality. Therefore, his mind and his mind must change first. This will not be done with immediate advice from a gold dish. Rather, he will have to personally test it through his own experiences and build up his personal knowledge.
So, dear reader, do not confuse yourself with their effects, and do not burden yourself with the unnecessary feeling that you are unimportant or negligent, you have done your simple role with advice and now let him discover what I said.
5 - Remember that you can control your reaction only
You will not be able to control all the negative situations and events you face every day, but you can control your reaction. Try taking yourself for a few seconds outside of this provocative situation before you make any reaction that may have consequences for your whole day, not to mention the consequences of this annoying thing that may become bigger while you are in need of all this.
These few seconds will train your mind to deal with these coming situations more smoothly and flexibly.