Life does not always go smoothly, which are only beautiful and happy. First, we must accept that it is a fact. Two sides are absolute things in our lives, they go hand in hand. Sad, good, bad, sweet, bitter, etc. We already know, but sometimes accepting the fact is not easy. Our instant thoughts will automatically work at the worst times, judge, feel we don't deserve to be treated like that, we are too good to get those bad things, etc. But rest assured that it is all the process of self-maturity for all things in our lives.
Being left behind by someone we love, being betrayed by a friend, boyfriend or husband, being abused by someone, losing a family, failure etc. all of that is part of a painful caption in life. It must hurt, and it's not easy to be able to reconcile with the situation back to normal. "Only time will heal," often we hear that advice in heartbreakers quotes. Honestly at this time I was in that situation, it was hard to accept, but I tried to explore it layer by layer. Being left behind by someone we love is not a simple matter and it hurts. Every second the memories that are present always force us to want to repeat it again, but when remembering the bad things that happen and immediately feels a thorn stabbing, crying ... surely it's a package. Sorry ... it's too late. One of them is enjoying everything. Over time, everything will improve too. Come back to the quotes, and it's true "time is the best healer".
Make peace with the situation, look at the people below us, who have the same problem but give up on conditions like suicide / ending their lives. Grateful we are still strong with it, can still think clearly that it is not the end of everything. See our potential going forward, there are many beautiful things that we must realize, the ideals of life, careers, families who always sincerely support, and maybe happy surprises in our steps forward. Don't stay alone, take the time to join positive friends, get even closer to God.
Life is crazy, some people say that. The madness is like creating poison that will slowly kill our lives. Loss of happiness, just thinking at one point, loss of appetite and enthusiasm, slowly it will fester our health, decrease the immune system and the poison spreads successfully in our lives. We need detox to upgrade our lives again.
:: Don't act rashly, calm down. Wait a minute and see. Do not obey the chaos created at that time. That way there is a positive value on how we behave.
:: No need to blame anyone, especially yourself because it will make us worse off. Remember that everything happens by the will of God, we believe that all the bad things in our lives are repetitive things in the past, or it can also be self-learning for us to be even stronger through this life.
:: Never believe in our mind that was chaotic at the time. Because it is not a fact. Thoughts that are influenced by emotions, anger will only result in bad things that come out of the tongue, making us stressed out, anxious and afraid of ourselves.
:: Forgiveness is not for proof that we give up or we are wrong and make the person better. Forgiveness is more on our peace, grace and of course relieve pain that occurred in the past. Or it's easy to say, "Hey ... I'm fine".
As humans, the place from wrong and forgot, also weak creatures. All the same, all forms of grief or bad things that happen in our lives are not instant we can accept. There are stages to truly being able to accept these conditions. So don't ever say or think that is the end of everything. Remember our lives may still be long and the bad things in our lives will not stop there, they just change and we must be stronger to deal with it. Remember there is a power of God where we rely and hope. There will be a rainbow after the rain, and however the sun will always rise every morning from the eastern horizon.
Thanks for reading. ) dwiita😉