We’re Staying Together For The Kids

#News flash! Your kids don’t do as you say, get over yourself, they’re no different than you are. It’s in their nature to defy your words and mirror your actions. Little boys wear flat bill baseball caps and coveralls because dad wears flat bill baseball caps and coveralls. Little girls aren’t walking around the house in their own high heeled shoes, those are mommy’s. Sometimes they listen to you, sometimes they don’t. Sometimes they like you, sometimes not so much. They eat what you say when you prepare it, they go to sleep on your watch and their daily activities revolve around your better judgement—it’s your actions they’re going to emulate.

Don’t be surprised when the daughter in law is having an affair or she answers to the b-wOrd in front of the grandkids. :pause:

:continue: The actions will vary, it doesn’t have to be cheating and abusing, it’s the reaction that’s familiar, that’s the part that needs to repeat. The hatred, ignoring one another to avoid conversation, crying, screaming, etc., that’s the desired reaction—the normal part.

Nobody wants to see their daughter dating someone they don’t approve of but the fact is, the nice guy, the one who always tells her she’s beautiful and opens doors for her, the one who compliments her every day and she’s enamored by isn’t normal. A little girl who’s daddy sleeps on the couch because her parents are “staying together for the kids” won’t have anything to do with a boy who actually loves her—it isn’t normal to her.

Fellas, you’re saying all of the right things, you’re teaching your boy to respect his mother and protect his sister. He’s listening to everything you’re saying about “be nice to your sister” and “ladies first,” he’ll repeat those words later in #life. But his actions are going to be a replay of whatever it takes to achieve normal and if his dad is “staying together for the kids” then his idea of normal is the reaction he’s used to seeing from his mother.

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