Divorce, may be a thing that is feared by many people either married or married. However, it is undeniable that divorce can happen very easily for those who are married. Some are divorced when the age of marriage has reached dozens or dozens of years, but not a few also divorce that occurs when the new marriage age of corn. Just married a few months, find the imperfection or dis-ease of the couple and then choose a divorce.
Many reasons for divorce such as infidelity, financial problems, lack of similarity, differences of views between large families, even trivial problems such as no where the intersection where to stand? at home of a woman's parents or a husband. To discuss about divorce in this article. There are at least 5 Things as the main cause of failure in the household which ultimately leads to divorce.
1. Does not have a clear standard of value
What is a standard value? main standards or guidelines that serve as a reference for taking each decision for each partner, as well as a reference to find a solution when there is a problem. When the standard of value is unclear and often makes each ego a standard of value, it is certain that domestic rifts have started to occur at that time.
A simple example, when having differences of opinion between husband and wife about residence. For example the wife wants to stay with her parents while her husband wants to stay independently not with his wife's parents (in-laws). If the ego is used as a standard of value, of course this problem will not find its tipping point unless it is just an endless debate.
2. Do not want to enjoy the process
One of the most fatal mistakes most couples get married is to imagine marriage is something beautiful. For women may imagine how fun it is to have a husband who is pious, obedient, rich, handsome, understanding, gentle and kind. The boys certainly imagine wanting to get a woman partner who is shaleha, beautiful, kind, smart cook, caring and obedient. When before marriage has too high expectations about beautiful expectations after marriage, but when after marriage even find things that are very far from expectations would appear disappointment.
One thing to realize is that your partner is a man full of shortcomings and their own advantages. Naturally if it has shortcomings, commonplace if many mistakes and imperfect. So the task of each partner is to learn from each other, get to know each other and be patient to pass through the process of maturation. When not having a mental willing to process, the perfect wish will certainly lead to conflict and ultimately lead to divorce.
3. Do not understand the role of each partner
Understanding each other's role in building a household is one important thing that every couple should know. The main role male earns a living and is responsible for all the needs of his family, while the woman's primary role is as a mother for her children and wife for her husband the impact of his negativenya is the wife feel more powerful and superior than her husband. Sometimes the opposite happens, the husband in the house of the child and the wife who make a living or both share the same role as the breadwinner so the two couples are busy outside the house and meet again in a state of equally tired and bad effects are each couples feel the most meritorious in the household.
When the role division is not clear, coupled with the lack of good communication between the two partners. Certainly will or will not lead to conflict that threatens the integrity of the household and become one way of divorce.
4. Never feel quite economically
The most common is financial problems. Not a few couples who agree to end his marriage or one of the couples who ask at the end of his marriage caused by economic problems. Wives feel the money given by the husband is very little or a reluctant husband, lazy in making a living for his family.
The absence of mutual acceptance between couples especially accepting the difficult economic conditions that are being faced, can not be patient in going through difficult times until it finally ends in divorce.
5. Comparing the couple
Making comparisons, especially compared to your spouse, this is the main cause of the affair. At the time the husband at home did not get good service from his wife, while arriving at the office of female colleagues give better attention or often also occur for a woman whose husband has economic shortcomings such as not having a motorcycle let alone a car while dikantor co-workers with men kindly willing to take him wherever he goes with the car.
The neighbor's grass looks greener, that's what happens when you compare. Will always see the other much better than the grace that has been given to you.
Marriage, is a long journey. It takes great energy, it takes patience in living it. Do not expect a perfect partner because it will never exist, but please accept your partner in a perfect way and then learn together, remind each other, strengthen each other to unite the heart among you and eventually you become a mutually perfect person.
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