A lesser talked about, yet highly relevant topic is dealing with Failure
and the mechanisms to dealing with adversity and overcoming any challenge.
Failing your way to success...
I clearly remember a period during my teens were i did not have any idea
what i wanted to do with my life, some friends were clearly set on the things
they wanted to do, i on the other hand was enjoying life, rolling with the punches
working several jobs and planning my master plan for living life on my own terms,
i knew that money was a big driving factor with myself as i grew up on hard times
with an alcoholic abusive father and a depressive mother i needed a way out so i could
look after myself and family going forward, and with the internet being less than 10years old
at the time i knew this was the way of the future, and that i was going to learn how the
internet works, everything was about making money to survive.
Having tried , tested and failed at many projects over the years, what makes
you decide enough is enough... how many more times can i go through this... my attitude
was and always is, i will not give up until it kills me ( bit dramatic ) though when you tell
yourself daily in the mirror an affirmation, and are so driven to do whatever it takes then
you will get there, any mountain in my way YOU will overcome, with consistent daily action
and getting around the best people in my industry.
We all experience failure in our lives on a consistent basis unfortunately you will come across
the people who like to poke their finger in it aka "haters" the people who sit on the sidelines
and bad mouth other people. The key here is to take note.
a famous quote goes "you are the average of the 5 people you surround yourself with" - who is your 5 ?
What I eventually learned was that failing at one thing is not failing at all things.
And, in fact, failure is a necessary part of growth. Life is filled with trial and error.
In order to walk the path to success, life, family, business or spiritual you need to
make some wrong turns along the way.
The comforting realization is that much of our life is spent making mistakes.
Inaction from a setback, can make getting started that more challenging.
Once started though, and the mindset in place, it gets easier. By making mistakes,
you are making progress.
If you cannot get over past failures you will carry this for the rest of your life,
which makes moving forward very difficult. Don’t let negative experiences
pave your road in life, wither it be family, friends, health.
Even the most tragic experiences should not stop you from seeking a positive,
productive and full life. Your past problems can either BREAK YOU or MAKE YOU
either way we have to deal with it and move forward.
You can change many things, appreciation for the smallest things can bring joy to
the bigger issues but until you change yourself, the problems don’t go away.
Admitting the need for change is a catalyst for a new way of thinking. To admit this need,
you must get to know your own strengths and weaknesses. Don’t allow your weaknesses
to make you quit. If you are weak at something this is a road sign to seek help/guidance.
Focus on your strengths, Use your strengths to push you forward.
To live a full life you have to take risks, there is no other way around it.
A risk is measured by the value of the goal it seeks and not by the fear that it
generates.
Once you’ve developed the persistence to move forward against adversity and the
resilience to pick yourself up after every fall, you still have to have a plan that will
keep you from getting tired of the game. Life is a game, some win, some loss and
some don't even get off the sideline. You have to move FORWARD.
Get up, get over it, get going.