146 days without seeing my kid..
My child's mother and her lawyer have been playing games and still ignoring me. I filed contempt yet again and cited all the rights they are violating of my child and mine.
Publishing the rest of the emails up to date cause I want this to be as transparent as I can make it. I'm sick of the system that's enabling and encouraging this war on caring fathers.
To - Jim
From Dillion
Dated - 11/16/2018
Subject - Visit?
Still no confirmation of a for-sure visit date.. The visitation center has it logged that you/your client set up those last 2 visits (10-28 & 11-11) and neither happened. I have not seen my child since June 23rd at 4pm.. This is now 146 days with out seeing my child and I'm down right disgusted in the unprofessional-ism you and lasnem has displayed this whole experience. I have left voicemails and emails. You've yet to respond to my requests for the visits while aiding your client in violating our court order by wasting time. You and your client are violating my child and my rights as her parent.
- DEPRIVING ANOTHER OF CUSTODIAL OR PARENTAL RIGHTS -- A FELONY
A person may be charged with a felony who conceals a minor child or takes, obtains, retains, or fails to return a minor child from or to the child's parent (or person with custodial or visitation rights), according to Minnesota Statutes, section 609.26. A copy of that section is available from any district court clerk. - PARENTAL RIGHTS FROM MINNESOTA STATUTES, SECTION 518.17, SUBDIVISION 3
(a) Each party has the right of access to, and to receive copies of, school, medical, dental, religious training, and other important records and information about the minor children. Each party has the right of access to information regarding health or dental insurance available to the minor children. Presentation of a copy of this order to the custodian of a record or other information about the minor children constitutes sufficient authorization for the release of the record or information to the requesting party. ( I have requested and been denied for all of these)
(b) Each party shall keep the other informed as to the name and address of the school of attendance of the minor children. Each party has the right to be informed by school officials about the children's welfare, educational progress and status, and to attend school and parent teacher conferences. The school is not required to hold a separate conference for each party. (Ms. Whiffen has kept me in the dark completely)
(c) In case of an accident or serious illness of a minor child, each party shall notify the other party of the accident or illness, and the name of the health care provider and the place of treatment. (Never notified)
(d) Each party has the right of reasonable access and telephone contact with the minor children. (Been almost 4 years with phone contact)
This is one last attempt at establishing a schedule that you and your client actually follow.. Otherwise I shall be taking further legal actions.
Sincerely
A father who cares
Dillion
-----Original Message-----
From: Dillion
To: jvollstaedt
Sent: Tue, Nov 6, 2018 11:22 am
Subject: Visit?
So am I going to have my visit this week? This is now 135 days no visit or contact with my child.. This is a perfect example of alienation.
Sincerely
A father who cares
Dillion
-----Original Message-----
From: Dillion
To: jvollstaedt
Sent: Thu, Nov 1, 2018 4:36 pm
Subject: Re: Denied Visit last minute
Again.. This is day 131 with out a visit with my child. I paid $40 towards child support 2x of what was asked of me the visit and have paper proof along with proof of her receiving hundreds of dollars from my renters rebate ($595.00 on 8/6/18)
Where did the hundreds of dollars go from August(Why was there no visit in August if she got paid)? According to our child support worker she's received that and it could have been easily used on gas as I've been trying to get a visit this whole time but been met with nothing but excuses. I cant help what % the state takes from what I pay in but if shes not following visits and its been going on this long with out one whats the reason? Just so you are aware I will be publicly sharing these emails among the fathers rights groups of MN and other states/ all social media platforms to show the kinds of manipulation that comes from an alienating parent the legal aid that lie and enable them.
I have hundreds of dollars in receipts I have paid CASH towards her that could have made a huge dent on my child support back pack along with hundreds of dollars paid to LSS - both of which don't benefit my child one bit.
I have paid my own gas for there and back for dozens of times plus those extortion fees - Why cant she do the same?
Me not getting a visit if I don't hand over cash(That doesn't count towards my child support obligation) is extortion. I put the definition below if you weren't aware.
Hopefully your client can understand the damages shes actively causing our child's mental health and get my child's and I's relationship back to how it should be be before she welcomes 2 new children into this world and puts Danyelle's best interests on an even further back burner.
EXTORTION - ex·tor·tion
/ikˈstôrSH(ə)n/SubmitSubmit
noun
the practice of obtaining something, especially money, through force or threats.
Sincerely
A father who cares
Dillion
-----Original Message-----
From: James Vollstaedt
To: Dillion Timm
Sent: Thu, Nov 1, 2018 3:20 pm
Subject: RE: Denied Visit last minute
Dillion – I am attaching a screenshot of Ms. Whiffen’s child support account showing a deposit of $11.80. She didn’t get the $20.
As we discussed earlier, she needs $20 to pay for gas to bring the child to Duluth. This has absolutely nothing to do with child support. The fact that the staff made a comment regarding child support doesn’t mean that is the case. She agreed to do this for the $20 in gas money entirely separate form any child support obligation.
My understanding is the staff at the visitation center proposed to have you bring them $20 a day in advance of the visit. This sounds reasonable to me. Do you have any objection to that?
From: Dillion
Sent: Tuesday, October 30, 2018 2:22 PM
To: James Vollstaedt
Subject: Denied Visit last minute
Well we are now on day 129 with out a visit with my child and 129 excuses on why it hasn't happened.. I paid $40 towards child support 2x of what was asked of me the visit and have paper proof along with proof of her receiving hundreds of dollars from my renters rebate ($595.00 on 8/6/18). I find it hard to believe she has no means to get to Duluth considering 2 of her husbands children are located close to me.. The visitation staff said that "Ms. Whiffen hasn't done visits cause you didn't pay child support ."
According to the laws "Non-payment of support is not a justification for refusing to follow the court's parenting time order/visits." This seems like grounds for contempt to me..
I will keep fighting for my child until my child gets the other half of her family back as your client is the one manipulating all the parties involved and wasting probably whats now 10's of thousands of the states money.
Your client is free to email me if she's willing to attempt to co-parent of shes also free to use a 3rd party app or person but attempting to move forward even one bit isn't going to be taken too well in court.
Dillion
-----Original Message-----
From: Dillion Timm
To: jvollstaedt
Sent: Thu, Oct 11, 2018 12:08 pm
Subject: Re: Visit date?
No problem, I'll write a letter to the judge requesting those things/file a request if you and your client are not willing to do so.
I've submitted more than enough information to prove I'm in therapy and I've submitted letters from my therapists proving so. I have nothing to hide as a majority of my issues stem from dealing with the manipulation your client has been putting me through along with the manipulation the lawyer you replaced has put me through. Ill gladly submit mental health records but I feel that the courts need to see the other parties as well as her husband's due to the severity of his charges and him actually being on probation for numerous years and serving jail time for his issues. In my letter to the judge I'm also going to be requesting some sort of third-party to be involved to get around all of your time wasting and delaying. I don't need to hire a professional liar to prove my child's mother is alienating my child from me/the rest of her family and I will prove it. Sadly I'm disgusted how much of a joke my concerns have been received by her mothers representatives for my child's safety.. Her actions of acting out are a direct result of the actual abusive father figure in the house and you are more concerned about a win for your career.
So if you and your party are unwilling to cooperate all because she supposedly doesn't have to then that is fine and I will take it up with my legal advice and the courts. You're unprofessional-ism is obvious and I refuse to be taken advantage of.
Also if you want to be technical about things being court ordered and not being followed through with we could bring up the visits that you've been taking almost a month to even get accepted when the bi-weekly court ordered.. I've contacted you/your office just under 10 times to get visits set up and this just one of many times I've been denied my visits and I have every date documented along with the corresponding visitation log notes.
I'll send you a copy of anything I submit/file a request for.
Have a great day
Dillion
-----Original Message-----
From: James Vollstaedt
To: Dillion
Sent: Wed, Oct 10, 2018 4:39 pm
Subject: RE: Visit date?
Dillion –
I am looking at the Findings dated December 14, 2016 – “Prior to, or concurrently with, seeking expansion of parenting time, Petitioner shall provide to the Court and Counsel for Respondent mental records, including, but not limited to, the diagnostic assessment and progress notes.” It is on page 16 of the Findings. If you need a copy, please let me know.
I will take the position at trial that providing those records is a prerequisite to your obtaining any expanded parenting time.
I see you were also ordered to provide therapy records by the April 11, 2016 order.
I am not aware of any order requiring Ms. Whiffen or her husband to provide these records, and I am not aware of any other basis you have put forth for obtaining these records. Please let me know if I am mistaken.
Thank you, Jim
From: Dillion
Sent: Tuesday, October 9, 2018 10:16 PM
To: James Vollstaedt
Subject: Re: Visit date?
Okay and what about the mental health records of Mr. & Ms. Whiffen?
-----Original Message-----
From: James Vollstaedt
To: Dillion
Sent: Tue, Oct 9, 2018 3:30 pm
Subject: RE: Visit date?
I have forwarded your email.
From: Dillion
Sent: Tuesday, October 9, 2018 3:27 PM
To: James Vollstaedt
Subject: Visit date?
Still waiting on a response to setting up visits from 10/5/18 I have agreed to your stipulations on what you and your party have requested to move forward with long over due visits. The center in Duluth is awaiting a call from you or your client on when they are able to have a visit. My schedule revolves around my children so any time she sets up I will make work.
Hope to hear a visit date from you soon
-Dillion
-----Original Message-----
From: Dillion
To: jvollstaedt
Sent: Fri, Oct 5, 2018 2:24 pm
Subject: RE: Letter/Releases - Visit Duluth Visitation Center
I'm okay with putting $20 towards my child support account when she brings our child to the Duluth visitation center though I just hope her work schedule can be flexible with the court-ordered bi-weekly at the minimum visits as I've had zero visits for months now and I've been trying for months and contacted the Duluth visitation center many times to have them contact her. I was picking up my phone and visitation log notes from that Center and I'll gladly submit them to you and the courts along with all of the visitation log notes from Lutheran Social Services.
I contacted the Duluth visitation center earlier today(10/5/18) and had them contact Ms. Whiffen and she told them she's waiting on the okay from you. So as soon as you speak to her the visitation center would be waiting on a call back from your client to let them know that it was okayed by you.
Though I'm still wondering the status of getting mental health records Ms whiffen and her husband as a social worker I spoke with said that that would be concerned for them considering my accusations and looking at his. If she's willing to comply I will gladly release what needs to be released as this whole time I've been going to therapy has been to cope with parental alienation and todeal with the absolute lack of resources for fathers when it comes to custody situations that's some lawyers seem to be taking advantage of..
Hope to hear from you soon as I've acted as soon as I received the response from you and your client this morning
On Friday, October 5, 2018 James Vollstaedt
Hello –
Attached please find correspondence I filed with the court.
Ms. Whiffen is proposing to have visits, as her schedule allows, in Duluth under the former arrangement whereby you assist her with gas money by putting $20 on the child support card prior to the visit.
Let me know if this is agreeable.
Thank you, Jim
From: Dillion
Sent: Thursday, October 4, 2018 10:32 AM
To: James Vollstaedt
Subject: Re: Letter/Releases - Visit Duluth Visitation Center
Its been 20 days and counting since I have heard from you. I have called your office 2 times and this will be my now 3rd email.. (very unprofessional) I will be including these emails into the documents I'll be submitting to the judge.
Due to your lack of communication and Danyelle's mother ignoring all attempts of setting up a visit along with the discovery of additional evidence, I filed for a continuance today.
Your copy is included in the attachment above and I will be mailing a copy as well. Hopefully you and your client will consider doing whats best for the child involved and get a hold of the Duluth family visitation center to set up a visit.
-Dillion
-----Original Message-----
From: James Vollstaedt
To: Dillion
Sent: Fri, Sep 14, 2018 4:42 pm
Subject: RE: Letter/Releases - Visit Duluth Visitation Center
Dillion – at this time, Ms. Whiffen is going to decline having the visits in Duluth.
Jim Vollstaedt
Staff Attorney
Legal Aid Service of Northeastern Minnesota
820 North 9th Street, Suite 200
Virginia, MN 55792
From: Dillion
Sent: Thursday, September 13, 2018 3:12 PM
To: James Vollstaedt
Subject: Re: Letter/Releases - Visit Duluth Visitation Center
Thank you for your response and sending over those and I'll have my therapist handle that request. Though I don't believe there was a response to my request for visits at the Duluth family visitation center. We have a history of visits there along with this visitation center being a much more child-friendly and more integrating feeling center. The center in Virginia being Lutheran Social Services has visits in a very dingy basement and is used as a crisis shelter so at times visits are moved to an even barer smaller room. The Duluth Center also keeps phone records and logs of both of us and can release logs to both of us rather than LSS strictly not being able to give Mrs Whiffen logs. There is zero concern in any of my visitation logs as you can review for as many years back as these visits go so I don't feel there's concern for me being around my child from any of these centers.
Hopefully I hear back regarding a visit at the Duluth family visitation center. I gave already called them for them to get in contact with Mrs Whiffen and Ill be calling the phone number listed below to ensure this gets figured out as soon as possible.
-Dillion
-----Original Message-----
From: James Vollstaedt
To: Dillion
Sent: Wed, Sep 12, 2018 5:13 pm
Subject: Letter/Releases
Mr. Timm:
Attached please find a letter dated September 12, 2018 and two releases for Eustice Counselling. I am also sending these to you in the mail, and sending hard copies of the releases to Eustice Counselling. Let me know if you have any questions or if you need these in some other format.
Thanks, Jim
Jim Vollstaedt
Staff Attorney
Legal Aid Service of Northeastern Minnesota
820 North 9th Street, Suite 200
Virginia, MN 55792
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