Separation & Annulment...will never be an option if (Part 1 of 2)

......You will put a spark on all the appliances... not to put a match to start fire, naughty! but this may happen when both will not be in control of their emotions due to anger, hatred, jealousy, self-pity, that will eventually lead to frequent fights as the love continue to fade little by little.

There are so many factors affecting a good relationship. Sometimes there are things that we don’t normally take noticed of like we are no longer showing some sweetness, thoughtfulness and appreciation which has been shown during the early courtship or early part of the marriage. Sooner or later you would hear the words “he deserve someone else better than me”, this statement is clearly showing some signs that maybe the one who is having this kind of feeling probably met someone else and has started comparing the other when it should be “I will do my best to be a better person for him/her to deserve me”. You need to see that when you made the decision of being together you have given yourselves with no option but to be a better person in order to be together for the rest of your lives.

Willingness is essential to the success of a relationship. As time goes by, both partner may tend to lose their willingness to do things that expresses their love for one another and perhaps both are no longer giving the same magnitude of sweetness, thoughtfulness and quality time may it be brought about by being busy because of work or any other activities both partners are involved with. Willingness to make things work out for both partners are very essential to keep the relationship or marriage a long lasting one.

Transform your house into a happy home, a place where you are always excited and happy to stay as you feel secured, being loved, and taken cared of when you are there.

1) SOFA – DATING PLACE
Husband is lying down on the sofa while watching TV and wife would want to lay down also, small things like this will turn into a fight if you don’t know how to deal with it as SOFA is very small not unless it is a sofa bed.

Wife or husband can say, (whispering.....) you know Honey/Babe why I lay down with you here? This small sofa can predict the possible reaction I will get from you when things goes tough or when time comes we got broke and will just have a very small place to share, 1) I want to know if you will drive me away because the place is too small that you hardly breathe, 2) if you will go away and just leave me to find a better place and 3) You will hold me tight so I won’t fall during the tough times of our lives in order for us to stay together come what may. I prefer no 3, do you? End of story, both won the sofa I guess. Sometimes little did we realise that we don’t always need extravagant, luxurious, costly places to be intimate with our loved ones....especially for people who can’t afford, a sofa is more than enough. Start being intimate in not so costly places as when you had the chance of being intimate in an extravagant, luxurious, costly places bringing back the memories when you just spent intimacy in such a small place like sofa, you will be grateful of how far you are now from just as simple date on your sofa to a much better place you both deserve. You may have an extravagant date but after 5 years or 10 years to justify that is worth every cent if you are still together happy as you we’re just like when you had your first night ( after marriage!).

2) FRIDGE – COMPENSATING FOR YOUR ABSENCE
Sometimes women want some space as for me I want to once in a while be with my parents or true friends, sleep over.
Wife wants to sleep over to her parents’ house definitely will ask permission to her husband, husband have agreed. It should not end to that. Wife should cook something for her husband to make up for her absence should cook lunch and dinner that will last for at least 2 days, husband may go out also with friends and the tendency is when the wife comes back the food will still be in the fridge. Stick a note on the fridge for example, Honey/Babe I cooked lunch and dinner for you I kept inside the fridge I put labels on the storage container. Just heat them when you feel like eating, I feel sorry that you just have to heat them by yourself will make up when I come back...will miss you dearly one day without you seems to be so long, you can go out with your friends also. You know your limitations just as I know mine, I trust you but I am afraid of desperate women as for me you are a good catch and too handsome to be ignored by flirt women. Just think that the woman who is flirting with you is me and you are just another cheap guy, will you like that? I hope I made myself clear..............Love you dearly, Wife

Sometimes it is nice to go back to basic once in a while, when there is no mobile ...we just put a note..handwritten notes are more sweet and personal, it can make you laugh if for example ones handwriting had an odd or unreadable strokes just merely seeing that I guess will make you laugh and for all you know decoding the handwriting strokes of each will tell how much you know each other.