I, like you and the Indonesian people in general, are very concerned about family resilience. If I am involved in discussions about family harmony, it is because I firmly believe that the power of the Indonesian nation must be built through the family. The formation of the character of the nation, must begin from the formation of character in the family. No character can be built without family harmony.
If our family is harmonious, this is a big contribution to the creation of a harmonious society, nation and country. Conversely, if there is a broken family, broken families will contribute negatively to the good of society, nation and state. Thus, maintaining family harmony is not just the interests of each individual family member, but the interests of the nation and state. If the family is a mess, it will be a matter of burdening the nation and the country as well.
The Bogel Story from the Cluttered Family
I became goosebumps read the writing mbak Shinta in blog shintaksari.multiply.com about the life of Bogel the street child. Bogel is not an educated child. It does not even understand the rights of children or violence against children or the protection of children. All he knew was that in order to survive in the streets, he had to prove himself great. All he wanted was to prove to his father that he too could be as angry as his father. Bogel, a 20-year-old street kid, a hard life journey since he was in elementary school has taught him to be a tough character. A lesson in childhood that can not be forgotten until whenever.
"From the fifth grade of elementary school, I am far from my parents. My parents live in Pademangan, I live in West Jakarta with other people. I joined neighbors like you. From there I started badung, "said Bogel started the story.
Bogel initially could only cry seeing his parents every day fighting in front of him. When she was in fourth grade, her mother was expelled. "That's when I began to grudge my father and my emotions getting taller and more and more emotional. I just want proof if I can also be angry. Especially until now the mother and father separated. In a way I learned angry yes from the father, "added Bogel.
"I think at that time, if people are considered stone or stubborn, people will segen with us," said Bogel. One way to prove themselves, Bogel who is still sitting in the fifth grade of elementary school is choosing to hang out with high school kids and STM.
"I join them brawny whatever, people, just stubborn," said Bogel. An adventurer who made Bogel expelled from school in his second year of junior high school and at the age of 16 he had to feel how he lived in Prison for 6 months and the Tangerang Children's Correctional Institution for one year. "I was in prison for 6 months, went to prison for a year for fighting and snatching a bicycle."
Thus the impact of a cluttered family. The future of the child becomes neglected and mortgaged.
Psychological Violence Against Children
According to Dr. Seto Mulyadi, now many children are trapped in various social situations that are not very conducive. They are stressed by pressures in the family, school, and community environment, leading to aggressive behavior that is often uncontrollable. The environment is not conducive, excessive pressure and things that are psychologically causing the wounded child is what Kak Seto intended as psychological violence. The form can be accusations, giving bad labels to children, threats, reproaches, accusations or curses, harsh words, or threatening movements, hurt children, scare children, stress and so on.
According to Kak Seto Mulyadi, Bogel can be an example of victims of psychological violence that his parents did not realize. It is generally said that the main consequences of psychological violence from parents, teachers, the environment and government rules are several things. The first models of violence seen and accepted will be imitated by the child The second is the destruction of the child's mental development. Children become unable to concentrate, children stress, children become afraid, children become motivated to commit acts of violence and so forth.
"So it is always said that if a child commits violence against another person, the child should not only be positioned as a defendant or a criminal offender, but must also be treated as a victim. Because the child is a victim of violence so coloring the lives of children that he slipped and trapped was forced to conflict with the law, "said Kak Seto.
Juvenile Delinquency and Parental Delinquency
So if there is a term juvenile delinquency, then the evaluation is also his parents. It could be because of the misbehavior of parents who are imitated more boldly by teenagers. A celebrity says that he is very inspired by the father and mother's free life at home. He often watches the father carrying other women into his bedroom. He also often saw his mother carrying another man into his bedroom. Father and mother of this celebrity seems to have mutually let each other lover carry their affair into the room.
The act of father and mother is a form of violence attitude that gave birth to the wounds and psychological trauma for the child. If parents are bad like that, should we still blame teenagers? Still need we mention the term juvenile delinquency? Though it turns out that started misbehaving is her parents.
So let us strengthen the resilience of the Indonesian family. We harmonize the Indonesian family. We sakinahkan family Indonesia. There will undoubtedly be a strong society, a strong nation, and a strong nation. Undoubtedly the birth of a dignified civilization.