I live in Nottingham/UK for my two lil ones. Gave up my career (PhD in Russian Film and Cultural studies finished with an A), got kicked out by their mother five years ago, was off work for two years with depression and high levels of anxiety, witnessed their abuse (after which that mother started a smear campaign with help of the so-called child services coz she was afraid of them taking the children away from her) was almost completely pushed out of their lives last autumn, started court proceedings and now they are with me one night per week.
My son's nearly ten and wants three nights with me but she's blocking it. Until he was eight and my daughter two I saw them every day. I am working for minimum pay as a support worker now, could have a career in Germany. I still love British music, literature, countryside etc but what those father- and child-hating institutions do here is abominable.