2018 rolled in with quite a bang. Not personally to me but to my son and daughter in law so technically its still personal.
It all started boxing day evening when my two adult kids decided they were going to party that evening. One drink led to another and voila they were both drunk. Meanwhile through the whole drinking party they were caring for their 4 month old son. The partying continued into the wee hours of the morning until my son decided to call it quits and took his baby down stairs to the bedroom and fell asleep with him. My daughter wanted to continue partying with her friends so she stayed upstairs to have loads more fun. Finally around 6am everyone went home so being her she became feisty cause their was no one else to have fun with and she wasn't done yet so she became angry. For whatever reason she let the dogs out of the house then she came into the bedroom where my son, his best friend and my grandson was sleeping. She started yelling that the dogs were out so my sons friend jumped out of bed and went to find them. She then turned her anger on my son and started slapping him. In the process she slapped my grandson which made things turn real bad. My son jumped up out of bed and the fight was on. The words soon became physical and my son beat his wife up. The whole time the baby was laying on the bed screaming his little head off.
At 8:30 am I received the first phone call from my very hysterical son. I told his friend to bring him to his dads house and to call the cops. The reason for the cops involvement was my daughter was extremely drunk and hysterical with a little baby my fear was for my grandchild. The police were called and of course social services. My son turned himself into the police station because he knew beating his wife was the wrong thing. They arrested him and now he waits his court date.
My daughter of course in her infinite wisdom proceeded to lie to the ministry and told them that the baby was not there that he was indeed safe at her dad's place. This lie turned out to be the worst mistake she made. Once all the evidence was put together she was later found to be a liar and my grandson was taken out of her care and placed into a foster home. Since I live six hours away my house was not considered an option due to travel distance and visitation.
Was I at all surprised at what took place? No I wasn't because I had gone for a visit in November saw the spiraling cyclone of downhill ism they were doing. I spoke into their lives they felt that I was being a meddling mother who had no right to speak into their lives because I knew nothing. I called it and told them exactly what was going to go down. They were extremely angry and lets say the visit was not at all pleasant and I left with them having extreme hard feelings towards me. I told my husband that there was nothing left to say but to let life play itself out. And guess what it did exactly like I called it. Darn I hate being right sometimes. Before I left I even offered to take them to my place so i could help them get things together. They point blank told me to blow it out of my you know what.
So now where are they now. They are on the biggest, hardest road ahead of them. They need to sober up, and get their baby back from the ministry. They don't realize that getting the baby back is going to be the hardest thing they have ever encountered. They both feel that the worker is on their side. I hope for their sake she is but from past experiences they act like they are for you but in reality are they? It took me 5 years to get my step son out of custody because of the mistakes his mother made. His father and I spent countless hours and loads of money to get him and in the end was told till his mother loses all rights we would never get him. We never got him till he was 16 years old and the fight began when he was 9. So I'm trying to stay positive for my kids but honestly I don't know. To add even more drama they just found out they are expecting again. I told them to keep that a secret till later.
So if anyone has any advice, comments, anything that you think may or may not help I'm listening. Take care all of you hug your children and please keep mine in your thoughts and prayers.