I have extreme mixed feelings about social services sometimes good and sometimes bad. I totally understand the hate to the system because they have hurt many people and have torn many families apart. But every once in awhile you will find a social worker who is honestly a great person trying to make a difference in someones life. I know they are few and far between but they are out there.
In my son's and daughter in law case they got one of those rare people. First of all she was a Christian someone who really believed in the family system. When our case first was brought to head she did not lord over them, scare them, bully them or anything else bad. She truly wanted to help. She put the kids to a test and laid out some ground rules and told them what she expected from them. She then sat back and waited to see if they would be willing to work hard to prove their worth. My kids knew they had messed up and decided to do what it takes to get their son back.
Now in our instance changes really did need to be made and they really did have to change their lives. They almost split up but they worked hard and for the first time worked together for the purpose of reuniting their family.
I figured this would take a few months and even more to prove to the system that they had truly changed. But the social worker recognized the changes and became their best advocate. She fought hard for them. So on April 25th the kids got their son back. Honestly this was the shortest time I had ever seen a scenario like ours play out. I do also believe that the fact that the social worker was a christian made a huge difference. She believed in my kids and reunited our family.
Now don't get me wrong I am not trying to candy coat the system and make it out to be a good system because a lot of times its not. May God bless the families that are being harmed and I am truly sorry for anyone who is being hurt. Please do not take my post in any way bad I just wanted to finish my story that I had started awhile ago. God Bless and Good luck
This is my kids having their first camping trip together since they have been reunited
