There are some things way beyond our control. We all crave love and attention. We all feel on top of the world when we are loved and we could feel it, but the truth is not everyone would love it like you, no matter how much you force it or try. You need to have the courage to let things you can’t control go.
When some don’t feel loved, they crumble. They lash out. They lose every sense of worth and feel they are not good enough. Being rejected doesn’t have anything to do with personal attack sometimes. It might be about the other person who doesn’t like you, and not necessarily you (We have a different mood, attitude, and feelings). I am sure we are not designed to wake up every day looking for who to impress.
People might not like you for various reasons. It might be because you have a different value system, it might be because they don’t fancy your approach sometimes, it might be because there is no mutual ground, like there is nothing in common, in term of attitudes, hobbies, and it might even be based on competition. Of course, people choose different reasons why they don’t like another person but let them deal with the “hate” or “dislike” or indifference in their hearts and do not be bothered about trying to win them over to your side. Let them deal with the hate in their heart and do not harbour any for them, because the hate in your heart might consume you too.
You can create a good impression, but it doesn't necessarily translate into likeness.
When you feel a negative vibe from someone, find a common ground and seek peace, but after doing this and nothing changes, let it be. Don’t live your life trying to impress another person, whom you might still never win over in the long run.
The truth is, you cannot please everyone. One of the many roads to failure is when you try to please everyone. Always do whatever gives you a conscience clear enough to sleep at night.
Most of the times when we feel rejected or unloved, we seem to retreat or withdraw from other people’s loving hands. We feel we are inadequate. We fail to see those who really care about us and base our feelings on one person's opinion. We feel incomplete. We feel the need to change what is not broken. We are not perfect, yes, but you are not as broken as you feel you are. Don’t judge your life based on the unacceptability of another imperfect human being. Feel good about yourself on the inside.
To be continued...
Thank you for your time.
My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.
Still me,
My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.