Anything that doesn't meet the criteria of the feminism definition (the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes) is simply not feminism, hate is hate, bullying is bullying and feminism is feminism. I agree with you in the fact that there might be people who say they are feminist on one hand and in the other hand they might be bullies, now that is called bullying not feminism, those are two completely different things and Im very sorry to insist but is important to know the difference, so from my very humble point of view the correct title of your post should be 'A bully is someone who is kind of hateful' and I would totally agree, each thing needs to be called by its name, take a look at this link in wikipedia, it might change your mind ;) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feminism