…continued… from part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4 and part 5.
The finance of your home will play a huge part in reducing pressure and frustration and this is why it should be planned properly. I love the arrangement that I shared in the last post. It worked perfectly for them based on understanding and a huge level of sacrifice from the wife. She understands that it is not a favour but a huge show of love and respect so her husband wouldn’t feel less of a man for not earning much or doing much. It boils down on effective communication and understanding.
Sex is another major issue. So many times partners use sex as a weapon to punish their partners. They have conflict and choose to starve their partner sex. Such a person has forgotten that as I earlier mentioned, marriage is a covenant. Your body is no longer yours. You have to share everything.
I always tell people when they hide under the fact that they are tired or it is not easy. The truth is, anyone can do it if it is easy and that is why marriage isn’t for babies. You have to sacrifice some personal comfort just to make the other person happy and I am of the opinion that the other partner should also be considerate.
Communicate well with your partner because a lot of things depend on it. Your finance is the lifeline for your home, so you need to seek a pattern that works well for the two of you; with the well-being of your home a priority, and also never ignore the show of emotions and bond that comes with sex. Never use sex as a weapon against your partner. Never allow those little cracks to creep into your home. A little water here and there might drown the ship you have worked so hard to build.
Relationship requires a lot of hard work and don’t go into it if you are not ready for it. You owe yourself that much to have a good one, so wait till you are ready. Leave pressure out of your life. Age is never a determining factor.
THE END.
Thank you for your time.
My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.
Still me,
My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.