So here is another article about myself. I keep writing these articles describing myself for people to know more about me who enjoy reading my work, and this one is going to be interesting as everyone who wants to friendship with me will understand why I don't befriend them all and why I am not cruel or egoistic for doing so . Haha. Also another main reason is that if you hang out with some people and never gave it a thought whether your friend deserves to be with you or if he/she is a good company, then you might be taking whole your life directed towards a deep ditch.
Earlier in my childhood, I tried everyone to be my friend because I thought that more the number of people you know, more would you be able to make them help you whenever required. May be that's why I was called jugadu (makeshifter) by many people and it is true also. The more contacts you have, the more you are likely to receive help. But hey, this is only half the truth.
Trying to make everyone your friend doesn't work out for anybody. Even if you are an extrovert, having so many friends comes at its own cost. So what happened with me was that I tried to be nice to everyone, I never use to say anything to anybody in my defense to keep the relationship strong, no matter what they said or did to me. But every person is different and not everyone can understand each other. There would be some who would criticize you, some who might think you are weird, some might even make fun of you, some may appreciate you as well, some won't understand you, some would be obliged to just get a chance to speak to you and moreover, when you are somebody like me, totally weird, philosophical, imaginative, deep, different and an individualist, it becomes very tough for you to hold on to such people around you because all they will do is make fun of you.
I just stopped making friends and I even stopped speaking to my old friends. I stopped to have the will to be called a make-shifter anymore, because I realized that having more friends can't help you. They are your friends for their own benefit. They won't care to help you if they criticize you, make fun of you, do not understand you and more. If they don't take you seriously, they would never help you when required. The people who would actually help you would be some real close friends of yours who might not be having many contacts but still will anyhow find a way to help you.
So I dropped all my contacts in the gutter and went deep into finding more truths of the cosmos. I got indulged in meditative practices and while my eyes were closed during the process, it was then when I got awakened. Life is ironic. I stopped telling people about the truths and instead, I started writing those and it is working pretty well until now.
I am now very selective when it comes to making friends and talk to new people, or even talking to my old friends. I see that most of the people in India are very much into Drama. Yes, and I stay away from dramatic people, people who over react and stretch small issues.
Next, I can't talk to people who talk about meaningless things. Talks which don't have a purpose, which are made just to satisfy emotional needs. I see people talk s**t about others to make the other person agree to them, thus satisfying their urge to be proved right in front of somebody. I can't indulge in such talks and so I stay away from these kind of people. I have attained an emotional and logical balance and may be that's why I can not stay around people having an imbalance of either emotions or logic. I can only befriend people who can talk sensible, about those things which really matter.
I would still befriend people who are unable to understand my theories. It's not easy to digest such concepts of mine without experiencing so I understand that, but those who completely restrict themselves from listening to whatever I have to say about deep things, are erased of my friend list. I understand that these things are not easy to apprehend but even when I present logics and facts and they are unanswerable to it, but still do not want to understand things, I would prefer not to be around any such person anymore. After-all, why should we be with someone who can not accept that he was incorrect. We all are humans and we can not always be right.
I don't befriend people who DO NOT change every 3 months. Now, people look for those who do not change, but I do the opposite. One who doesn't change quick does not upgrade and is already dead. Change is necessary. It is important that one keeps on learning which automatically will prove their old opinions wrong and will thus allow new blood enter their brain and keeps them upgraded, awakened and on the path of enlightenment.
I don't make friends with people who always praise me !! Yes, it certainly means that they find me worth being with them and that is why they are with me. They are with me for themselves, because they consider me good enough. Don't take me wrong here, I don't mind to be friends with people who appreciate me but with those, who always keep on blabbering that I am one in a million. It shows their selfishness in being with that special one, which is I in this case and not exactly for me and my qualities but for their own satisfaction.
I never make friends with people who do not understand me. What's the point to be with someone who is always arguing with you on every topic. I don't argue with people. What I believe is that every body have their own perspective and so we should not fight each other or argue to prove who is right and who is wrong because no body is never right or wrong, it is just a matter of opinions which are impermanent.
That is a whole list of points I see with choosing my friends. Well it might not seem to be that important to be so selective but you have no idea how much important it is to select wisely the people who you wanna keep around. A group helps in shaping each other's opinion. A good company can make you and a bad one can break you. Don't be around those people who don't know what they want with their life.Don't ever be with those who make fun of you. They will let you believe that you are worthless. No matter how rich they are, how popular they are, how many contacts they have, how they CAN help you when required because they won't. There is so much a person can do but they simply won't do it. Only be with people who are sensible and think big, who are understanding, open minded, no matter how poor they are, how lonely they are, how unpopular they are, or how much they are made fun about.
This is very important for everyone reading it because friends can either bring out the best of you and can also kill it if not chosen wisely. I hope you will make a decision to cross out all the useless people you hang out with. Don't waste your time. There is an amazing world out there filled with super amazing people. Let us go out and find each other, change each other and change this world together !! All the best !!
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