…continued… from part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4, part 5 and part 6.
Ladies, you can’t do without friendship in marriage. There are no two ways about it and this is why you need to focus on your partner and channel all the closeness and affection you had with your friends to him, and he should do the same too. It is normal and expected for you to make each other “best of friends”. I have heard a lot of ladies complain to me about their lady friends not being so close to them any more when they get married. I do tell them they would do the same too on the flip side of a coin. I am not advocating for those who cut off their friends totally, no, but for those who rather channel all their attention to their partner because that is the right thing to do. You are supposed to build your home and you don’t need any external interference to do that.
A lot of ladies do cut off totally the bad influences on them when they marry and that is wise, but for a friend who has been nothing short of a blessing to you, you don’t cut them off totally. You make out time for them once in a while. The truth is if your friend can easily cut you off after marriage, it shows your value is not as deep as you made it sound, or it shows your work with the person is done, so move on and seek relevance elsewhere. Always go to where you are celebrated and not where you are tolerated.
Friendship is really important in a relationship and this is why I faulted my friend’s girlfriend when she said my friend has been calling him too much; thrice a day for that matter. I laughed in anger! He is trying to build a connection with you and yet you are not seeing it that way. Whaaaaaat?!. You are not even returning calls; you ignore calls and said you should resolve to occasional text messages. I wouldn’t even tell my friend that, more so my girlfriend. That’s just ice cold. This brings me to the issue of commitment.
…to be continued…
Thank you for your time.
My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.
Still me,
My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.