Continued…
Just because we know some people to be natural about friendship doesn’t mean we should feel laid back and enjoy all the attention while we take their caring nature for granted. True friendship has no class barrier. You might not be able to have control of some sort, over who you fall in love with, but you have some level of control over who you choose to become friends with. Friendship is an intentional sailing ship, so your actions should be as well.
We should value friendship because most of the time, our friends determine how far we can go. A man would remain the same in 5 years, except for two things: the books he reads and the friends he keeps or has. Be intentional about whom you let into your space. Study their content before feeding it to your heart.
A friend of mine celebrated his birthday yesterday. I chatted him up to wish him a happy birthday. He was so excited and felt happy knowing I remembered. He went further and apologized for not even checking on me ever since. I laughed and I told him I totally understand. It is not about him reaching out, but about me being there for him at this key moment.
He has a family, he is always busy, so I totally understand if he forgot to check on me since because he has a lot going on too. We all know how a family can be so demanding that you hardly have time for yourself, coupled with work demands.
Friendship also requires a lot of understanding and that understanding should be given to those who actually deserve it. He has paid his dues, so he deserves some accolades. Hahaha. I know if nothing popped up, he would have reached out sooner than I did, so I can understand that.
We have a different kind of friends and we have different things that motivate people to be your friend. This is why you need to be deliberate about who you want your friends to be.
Having patience with them can come easily if we remember them based on who we know them to be; the good parts, and not who we now see them be; the changing part. So, when your friends complain to you about what you have stopped doing because they have been used to what you used to do; the good stuff of course, then it is only reasonable to quickly address it or explain IF that friendship really means anything to you.
To be continued...
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