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Busy is one of the most abused words used by people as an excuse for not being in touch, unfortunately, fewer people are actually busy and the rest guilty of being absent-minded. Dealing with such people and handling every situation of being forgotten or neglected, maybe by friends or family members or even spouses is what I am discussing here in this article.
However, being absent-minded is not a bad thing, not admitting it is the worse, it sounds and looks so trivial and petty to people but this actually has ruined marriages, good and perfect friendship and relationships, and had also destroyed some careers. Absent-mindedness in friendships and relationships is beyond coming late to walk or walking into a room and you forgot why you were there in the first place, these and many more are basic signs of being absent-minded.
Literally, this happens to almost everybody, although some are extremely meticulous, just a handful of them I must confess. But dealing with friends or families who forgets your birthday, stand you up on a date or come late, forgets to reply your calls and messages to them after a couple of days or hours or worse some friends might even forget your name often.
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Preoccupied minds some people will say, the fact is that most people in this category are not necessarily unaware of events but sometimes have more important things that distract their attention always. For example, ladies falls in these group, when you a guy keeps getting ignored and often gets his communications not responded to, such a girl has someone else that takes all her attention away.
Another instance is a friend who claims her work makes her ignore messages, but you could see her at intervals posting on Instagram and other social media platforms. Another example is a friend who missed your calls and when she eventually picks up puts you on hold to talk to someone else or tells you to call back. In all the stated examples, you can all deduce and infer that it is not actually not paying attention or being preoccupied with work or life, it’s about having other priorities greater e.g. other friends beneficial to them, this kind of people keeps you around to kill their boredom and you mean nothing to them!
Friendship is one of the easiest tasks on this planet provided you find someone who feels the same way about you. Setting timers, making sticky notes, making list amongst other things actually helps for people really suffering from absent-mindedness, but this might never work for friends, colleagues, extended family members who see you as an option and only sticks around with you at their own dire moments. The attributes below and several more not written should be what good friends and relationships are all about;
- Good friends finds time for each other
- They visit each other,
- Do spontaneous stuff for each other,
- Takes each other out,
- Buys gifts for themselves,
- Replies messages and calls at convenient times and inconvenient times.
- Supports themselves and never takes advantages of each other.
- Good friends disturb each other!
If you find yourself lacking in any of these with your friends, then it is sad to state that you have no real friends yet, move along and ahead. You might be lucky enough to get someone you share mutual interests and feelings for as time goes on.
In conclusion, a good friendship is as good as a family. Some friends stick around with you more than your actual blood-related families, treat those good ones well and never take them for granted, pay attention to them and do not mistake your misplaced priorities over your good friends and call it absent-mindedness!