Ever heard of “the average of 5” rule?
It’s a rule that states that you become the average of the five people you spend the most time with. From what I understood it is a reflection of your environment. Who are the people you spend time with? In the examples that were given when this was explained to me they say that if you surround yourself with rich people you will probably become rich, if you surround yourself with poop people you will remain poor or become poor (depending on your financial situation), if you surround yourself with idiots you will probably become the sixth idiot. I understand what they were trying to say but I don’t agree with the way it was presented, especially in this age of social media where everything is either taken literally or out of context.
Everyone wants to be successful but following these examples, people will or are given give more importance to having rich friends that having the right friend. In some instances, people are trying to hard and those rich friends don’t even care. What I think works and this is not something I came up with so I won’t take the credit for it, is that you should have the right people around instead of what is considered having the best people. Successful and rich people may be the best but most of the times those friendships are toxic. of course, not all are bad, there are some that are supportive and give you constructive feedback to work on.
Having the right people in your environment will push you to become better. What are the right people to have around?
- Those who inspire you;
- Those who support you and challenge you;
- Those who teach you become a better human being and;
- Those who believe in you.
With having the right people around you will be closer to realizing your goals. Sometimes having the right people around is not easy. We often have people around us that may not have bad intentions but their attitude influences our decisions. We may have an idea for a business that may seem scary. Sometimes our friends and family don’t believe in our abilities. What do we do then? It will become difficult but in order to succeed, we have to reevaluate our relationships. We have to detoxify from the negative vibes. Sometimes that means breaking a friendship or distancing yourself from that person. These days it is so easy to fall down and the fall it’s often caused by family or friends. We have to give up that bond and continue with our vision. If you have an idea, keep working on it till you reach your goal.
There is a difference between constructive criticism and destructible criticism. Criticism is necessary in order to become better so I am not saying close the door to critics but stay away from toxic friends and family. Make sure they don’t interfere with your path to success.
In this age of social media where someone has 200 friends online, the reality is that there is just a handful of those friends that really care about you. But not everyone realizes this, which often leads to depression. “My friends don’t like me anymore” It’s the end of the world! Well, that's not true If we realize that friendship is so much more than likes and comments. How many times have we seen that the friends of our friends are not really their friends?
Unfortunately, there are people, even family members, who like to put others down and prevent them from becoming successful. They are everywhere. Today, most of us have such people in our “circle” of friends. Some are very good at pretending, that’s why we don’t see it right away, so select your relationships carefully and keep your environment as clean as possible because that environment will be your support during difficult times.
The story of how George Lucas persevered to make his film inspired me to write this piece today #StarWarsDay
May the 4th be with you!!!
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A long time ago, a young upstart called George Lucas barely got his crazy movie made. Everyone thought Star Wars was a terrible idea. He proved them all wrong.
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