What is frustration?
If you think about it, frustration is an emotion that pops up when we don’t get what we want. It’s essentially "control" in action. Next time you feel frustrated, check in to see if you are feeling out of control and I’ll bet the answer is yes.
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We tend to feel frustrated when we can’t control what’s happening around us. For example – have you ever planned out your day only to have a few unexpected "things" pop up out of blue? Suddenly it’s not an option to carry on as you had planned, now you have to make some changes and feel forced into doing a few things that you hadn’t anticipated. Before you know it those feelings of frustration are starting to bubble up and you’re muttering things like:
- I don’t want to be doing this
- Why can’t things just work out as I planned!
- Why does everything have to be so hard today!
- Why me?!
The importance and benefits of your frustration.
The feeling of frustration it comes when you are not satisfying your needs, desires or wants through your own efforts and actions. But frustrations can also have some benefits and a positive impact on your life because if you feel frustrated, it means that you still have the motivation that you need to figure things out and you are still trying to solve your problem and not abandon it.The feeling of frustration can also help your imagination and sense because when you are not happy about your circumstances, you still feel determined to get things done and this helps you to wake up your senses and spot something you might have missed. You get more creatively about the situation you are facing, and you turn into a problem solver.
Frustrated? Manage your frustration!
When you try to manage your feelings of frustration, it is absolutely critical for you that you stay positive and proactive through this process. Do not fall into the trap of depression and feeling sorry for yourself. Feeling sorry for yourself will deny you the opportunity to get through this frustration with success. Instead, look for ways of how you can successfully manage your frustrations to make them work for you, rather than against you.
Here is a process of 3 steps that will help to better manage your frustrations on a daily basis:Step 1: Notice the Early Signs
The first step, of course, is to identify the early signs and triggers of your frustration. What kinds of feelings are coming up to you? Are there any goals you haven’t accomplished? Or a relationship you are not good at? Skills you would like to learn but you don’t have time to? Projects that you have procrastinated on? A task that isn’t getting done? Whatever it is, these feeling are the signal that you have expectations that you aren’t meeting.
We all have these kinds of expectations. But we need to immediately begin to work through them and help ourselves to better manage the emotion of frustration.
Step 2: Focus on the Important Things
When you feel frustrated, it is absolutely important for you to take control on how and where you focus your mind. You can focus on the things that will help you to get through this problem with success, or you can focus on things that will keep you frustrated and trapped in the problem.
Focus on solutions that will help you to move forward. Focus on what is it that you want to achieve and have. Focusing on the important things and having clarified what you want will help you to dig yourself out of these frustrating moments.
Step 3: Learn to Handle Frustration on a Long-Term
Frustration is a part of your life. You might not get frustrated today. But sooner or later something won’t go as expected and you will experience the feeling of frustration. And that is the moment that you must prepare for.
Frustration can be sometimes overwhelming so find ways to relax, to improve your organization skills. Relaxation doesn’t mean that you are ignoring your problems. Relaxation actually allows you to separate yourself from frustration to clear your mind.
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