A strange compliment I often get from people is, you are very confident. I find it strange because I wonder if am really confident or just appearing to be. Having spent over 10 years trying to make money online and failing miserably, lol, I do a lot of soul searching. I ask myself what is the one thing that I didn't do or could have done to achieve massive success earlier? A bunch of reasons and excuses creep up my mind. Inevitably I find it hard to pick that one thing...And then boom! It hits me. It's the failure to choose. And more devastating to success was the failure to choose unconditional happiness .
Now what is unconditional happiness and how does this relate to feeling confident? I hear you asking. Stay with me. I'll try to explain. This is my first post on Steem, which I only discovered a few hours ago, and hope you find value in it.
So, unconditional happiness. To me unconditional happiness is the ability to make yourself laugh. It's going a little bit crazy. Scientifically pumping up your own levels of serotonin for no other reason than be happy in that moment. Now still what has that got to do with feeling confident all the time in social situations and even success? And the answer is everything. People gravitate towards you when you feel happy i.e confident in the environment. The question is are you taking responsibility for your own mood? State of mind? Or leaving it to external factors?
As kids. We are carefree. We play around and unless you had horrific parents, I bet 90% of the time you were riding the crest of a beautiful and glorious wave. Post childhood, something dramatic happens to rob us of that high. And I am not referring to puberty or teenage angst. It's far more sinister. I don't have a name for it yet. But it feels like the world sending us on a fools errand. To go out there and find reasons to be happy. We no longer carefree. But slaves to well meaning parents, control freaks in governments, financial fraudsters, lying school teachers and superficial members of the culture or counter cultured set.
Each group benefiting from or engineering social systems that make us doubt ourselves to put them in power. They use sex, money and our desires to condition us like little Pavlovian dogs. We have somehow been deceived that our happiness, which we never lost, is only accessible by conforming to their value judgments. Layer by layer we are piled deep and high with false knowledge that take us further away from our core journey of self realization and personal freedom. To add insult to injury, via the most sophisticated deception, they convince then sell us their fake imitations of our own happiness. Cheap highs like drugs, alcohol, antidepressants and every form of doodad imaginable.
I believe confidence and success depends on unshakable and unconditional happiness. The type of happiness you feel just because (and we'll talk about how to trigger this in a moment). Doing, buying and trying to get things that'll make us happy is akin to chasing the dragon. Be happy. You are great! You don't feel it anymore because you have been a victim of the most advanced machination in the known universe. Its called consensual reality. Its product is human delusion. Society fuels it by fear mongering[news and politics] and fanning the flames of discontent[consumerism].
Take responsibility for your world and achieve true freedom. You do not need anything or anyone to find true happiness. In fact genuine happiness becomes your default state(as it was in the beginning) when you embrace the uncertainty of the unknown i.e accepting yourself and waiting long enough to discover your unique strengths and ordinary superpowers. I have the internal resources of intuition and emotional strength to be happy and fearless. You get what you need. Only the childlike believe they get what they want when it's not what they need. Getting what you need is true freedom because the universe affords it. So you have a richer, deeper and better experience of your own world.
Exercises such as walking or fasting together with a great diet are keys to excellent primary functioning. Going out for a walk energizes. Non judgement of other humans. Striking up conversations with strangers and going against the grain of society takes courage. And is necessary to emancipate yourself. Think deeply about why you're here. You do not control your heart beat, respiratory, circulatory or digestive system. But they all work in perfect harmony. Why then do you think you can be in control of your own life. This is the lie they try to sell you. You can only discover it. Let go and enjoy breathing, sleeping, spending time by yourself or with love ones. Tomorrow is now. Challenge yourself a little. All in all be happy. Be free.
So, how to feel confident all the time?