Following up on my post about the state of the world and the coming changes it is my wish to shed some light on the profound changes that are taking place regarding the issue of relationships, and romantic relationships in particular. To be honest, though, I am not really describing the future because the changes have already been taking place for two decades now. Nevertheless, it is true that more and more humans will have to adopt the following described style of life.
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Finding someone
Nowadays: people search. They use online dating website, go to bars/clubs, take classes and workshops and generally, if they are single their daily attention is almost always focused on finding a spouse. If they meet a man/woman they ask themselves: "is s/he my one?", "will I have a relationship with this person?", "what kind of a relationship we will have? for how long?" Nowadays, the mind of the average single man or woman is preoccupied with the search for someone to be with.
In the future: people will not search. The right person will be naturally and effortlessly attracted to them. The less they invest mentaleffort in the process the easier and faster the right person will come. Instead of doubting and worrying they will simply trust that their matching person will be there, at the right time. The level of their trust will be so high that they will not care to be alone for as much as needed because they will know that when they are ready they will be in a relationship.
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How many relationships
Nowadays: the average man and woman have several relationships before they "settle down" and commit to one person. Various relationships are necessary because they allow the person to learn about their personality and make the necessary adjustments until they make themselves ready for their "one".
In the future: people will not need to go through several relationships for the sake of learning. They will be aware and responsible to be able to go through the required processes alone. It will not be rare that people will get together from an early age, feeling and knowing and remembering their pre-life decision to be together in this physical world. While nowadays it may take a lifetime until one is ready to be with his soul-mate, in the future soul mates will be together from an early age, even as early as childhood.
The Essence
Nowadays:
The main reason why people get themselves together in a relationship is to learn and grow. Either they do it consciously or without much awareness, they use their spouses as a mirror for hidden parts within them, neglected aspects, that now need to surface, be dealt with, accepted and released.
Another reason for hooking up with people is the pleasure principle. People just want to have fun and to satisfy (for instance) their sexual drive.
A third most common reason is the fear of being alone. People are afraid of the quiet times that they have with themselves and so they want to be with someone. They are also afraid of the future ("who will take care of me once I get older?") and so they are forced by society to find someone to be with.
And lastly, the feeding issue. People require a relationship to fill themselves, to give them what they cannot get – do not know how to get – from themselves, from the inner and deep part of their identity. It's much easier to find a temporary and available relief from the outside than doing the inner journey within.
In the future: none of all these will exist simply because the consciousness will not allow it. People will choose to be with other people for the sake of experiencing life in a way that they cannot do alone. They will join their forces to accomplish things, for the sake of sharing, for the benefit of themselves, their community and the world they live in. The essence of their shared time will not be focused on getting something from each other but contributing to their mutual pot. There will be no victims or saviors, no offenders or abusers, no manipulators and no games players. People will use their time together wisely. Each day will be filled with a quality substance that will enrich the personality and the soul. There will not be a need to retrain the childish ego. It will come prepared.
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Time and space
Nowadays: people who are in a relationship are expected to live together under the same roof for most of the time. They share a household, spend their days together, go to work, come back, go to sleep, wake up and meet each other again. So pass the days, the months and the years.
In the future: it will be acceptable and natural for people to be apart from each other for long periods of time (weeks/months). This will happen when one spouse needs a retreat time or simply have to travel for business or other activities. Such separations happen also today but the difference will be that in the future the separation will only be physical! The couple will still be connected on the inner levels, through their telepathic/clairvoyant senses. In their dreams they will meet on a regular basis, converse, share experiences from the passing day and in general will live the life they would have lived in their physical environment ( and yes, they will have sex with each other in the dream world). Time and space will not be separators because people will live in multi-dimensional surroundings.
Fidelity/loyalty
I want to make sure that my words above are not misunderstood. Some of you may think that I describe here a society that will resemble the free love communities of the 60ies. I do not.
In the future, there will be no reason to be with other people, with or without the consent of the "official" spouse. Once the soul is fully embodied in the human form and chooses to be with someone, it doesn't need anyone else. Since the soul is completely capable to satisfy itself, the reasons for exchanging partners will be other than what we know today. In the future, exchanging partners will be a rare occurrence. The rate of divorce will significantly decrease because people will be aware of their spouse's multi-aspects and so they will be intrigued and fascinated by their single loved one whose multi-self will be explored for their entire life time. For instance, they may want to explore their spouse's previous life times, as a soldier during the Second World War or as a woman in the biblical times, and you can imagine how much time it will take to make such explorations. Cheating on your spouse will be considered as a total waste of time in addition to the damages it causes to one's connection with one's soul-self. In fact, the evolutionary process will make sure that infidelity will not survive as a trait in humans.
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Time Frame
The future is already here because there are people who embody within their relationships some of the features I described above. But, as a trend, that way of life will take several decades to reach substantial levels of assimilation among the general public. Until then, more people will choose to remain alone, to not engage in a relationship, but to focus their attention inward. Many marriages will be broken, many relationships will fall apart.
At first, as it is now, people will search for temporary reliefs and remedies. Hedonism, as a desirable way of life, will prevail in the mass consciousness. But the counter shift will come very fast as it will be realized that such a way of life doesn't provide the required answers.
The year 2070 will mark the end of these paradigms shift. By that time the existence of a soul will be scientifically proven and pursuing the bond with it will be the new religion.
But, forget the future, forget humanity. If some of the things I described above speak to your heart you are welcome to adopt those ways of life into your relationships with your spouses.
