When any person whole that his couple goes it to leave without having some reason, the first that goes through his mind are questions such as, What happened? It will be that it likes him another? Usually in all loving relation so much the man like the woman fulfil with a role, by a part, the man is the attendant to protect and cuidar to the woman this part goes back more punctilious when the woman is attractive. Of the side of the women occurs that they only are pending when the man begins to act of a distinct form, is in this precise instant that active in them the alarm that something does not walk well in his couple and only in question of second leave invade by the doubt and falls the emotional temple in which it said that the relation was to proof of fire, the peace disappears of himself same together with the confidence.
If you seat that the relation is badly, do not feel you culprit.
You have to take into account that the problems in the relation are not caused by one only but by both, so it is question of the two invest time to treat to fix the things, do not allow that it die the love, can that it have died the chemistry between both or have cooled the passion, but while it remain a pinch of love of the one by the another, is worthwhile to try fix the things. Some time have read the signs that say: ? Sweet home home? As the point is that probably the house was very beautiful by out but what does it a good home is the way as they carry the things inside her, the same raisin in the relation between couples, treats of not looking be happy with your couple if you are not it since this only will do to grow more the negative things inside the relation. When you feel that they already disappeared the details, when you seat that when arguing is as if they spoke in distinct languages, when it matter you happen more time with your friends that with your couple, is moment to settle down and understand that it does not walk well the relation and take the necessary time to fix the things between both since the base of the relation are both and if one falls the another also.
Aviva The love.
One of the things that helps to that the love lose strength in the relation is the fault of attention in the small disagreements that confront although already they fixed these moments of confusion is normal that follow appearing things for resolving. In the majority of the cases does a bit difficult do this and is because almost always is the man the one who has to give this step. Both have to interest mutually the one by the another and especially speak with the greater possible sincerity. Many times we think that the marriage has to be the most serious thing of the world forgetting that in a point of the engagement laughed us of everything and of at all and that always did things with the end to do feel well to our couple, please do not leave that this die.
It leaves to a side the sermons or the daily criticism, go back you his best fellow from time to time pleases some without sense whim respects his space and the confidence will grow. It is impossible to avoid that the monotonía apodere of our relations, but say you something, is fragile and can break, only you have the power to do something unexpected that do to notice to your couple that think in her and that voucher a lot for you, from time to time carry it to eat an ice cream or to desayunar to a bakery or prepares a rich breakfast, only lúcete!
You do not allow that the obligations of your day in day out turn off the love between both, converts you marriage in an adventure that help you to be better father, mother, husband, wife and that by on all the things help them to turn into a good family.
It remembers that.
From time to time do him some detail to your couple, do not leave to do it never, when they argue do not offend if you seat you with a lot of ire only expects to calm you a bit, know his best fellow, remembers beside her these moments in that only they mattered you two, are not judge neither jury detente a moment to recognise your errors, do not leave to say him that the masters the life is very short as to leave happen a moment of her litigating, learns of your couple, the respect has to remain always between you.
What happens when the love goes dying in the couple?
Lately it had had several discussions with my wife what carried me to think in that, if it exists some possibility to take again the lane of the peace and harmony in my home, needed to know if it could go back to convivir with my wife as in the first days or if it would arrive the part to resolve our differences.
Many times the couples give by finished the relation when finding with a problem, but are very few the couples that seat in the eye of the hurricane to raise and risk a last effort that help them to again live in peace. But the reality is subjective nowadays the people decides if something is well or badly, want that you know that the most feasible form to attain achieve the good convivencia in your home, is rescuing these stray values, such as, the respect, the communication that indispensable values in a home.
Keep the love and will have a happy family.
The love carries us to give the best of us and never leaves to die the before appointed values and one of the most important works from the love is to accept our differences and know sobrellevarlas, when this raisin seat you protected, loved, supported.
? When the love does not die in your home, your children become better people thanks to this love transmitted and to the values inculcados under the templanza and the firm base of the love.
? Always it separates a specific time to speak with your children and devote you to go back them better person, supports his positive projects.
? You are you the manager to give them the tools to form like a man or an exemplary woman.
It practises this.
You can transmit love to your family in a lot of forms, to which as I are parents of family, said them that, no everything is to shut in the room where only have like responsibility cater for the food, pay the accounts, buy clothes, etc. As no, whatever happens always have to separate time to show love to your family.
You can begin with the following:
? It embraces : it is important to show affection of fitness with our children and wife, know that in some point of your life have felt you protected when you are embraced, do not remove him the said to your family to live this experience, is a form to say them ?The master, always will cuidar them?
? Go back you a boy: somebody some time said, ?An adult is a boy inflado? And seeing it of the point sarcástico is truth, the point is that you owe in a moment given put you to the age of your children and goes in in his world this will do them feel better and will know that his father supports them, go back you the monster of his superhéroe favourite infunde these values of boy and when he of give grandchildren will not lose this.
? *It eats with them: I grew in a family where to the lunchtime each one went to his chamber to eat and the table was empty, invite you to that in this moment that can joint all in the table avoid to argue or touch subjects that go to create rencillas in this moment, on the contrary, share the positive experiences lived this day.
? It values his effort: to all likes us that they recognise us the effort that do, inculca this in your children, support them and teach them that they have to practise this with the other, treats to use sentences as, everything goes to be well, can do it. Infunde In which it can arrive to be the best in what it does.
The children are the feeblest link to the hour of the problems in the home, and the most sad of everything is that a lot of couples do not matter them argue in front of them, without knowing the damage that are causing them, when the love goes turning off is important to Recognise that this is happening and understand that your children will see affected of immediate way.
You have to take into account that the family is a team and each one has to assume his role and hold responsible by something, the children has to them teach the importance that the work of each member in the family is with the purpose and welfare of the same. Give them the care, love, and respect that deserve.
It boosts some familiar tradition.
If you remember some familiar tradition of when you were boy, practise it home nowadays, if no, then , invent it you same, eats hamburgers the weekends, sees to stroll with your family once a month, travels from time to time, is a form to concern you by them and to form in them a value as it is it, share in family.
Why I touch them this subject?
I am married from the year 2013. She is a big woman and many times say him that still neither she same gives account of the big person that is. Almost we fulfil 7 years of married and in these last days have argued more than the common and by my mind happen cientos of things and sometimes the crazy idea to throw the towel and leave all, but put me to see all what beside her have built and look me in the mirror of my suegro and my parents. By a part, my suegro carry more than 28 years of marriage and say that they have not gone through the same serious obstacles mentir, and have given me account that in the moments in that the relation goes cooling together look for the form of avivar the flame again. On the other hand, my parents have more than 20 together years and also saw the problems between them and even after all follow together in the middle of heights and basses.
It did not want to be of these couples that accustom to live of fight in fight and that arrive to a point in which they feel better if they are angry the one with the another. You do not allow that the monotonía apodere of your home, breaks with her, surprises to your family with good things, do not arrive to the point in that your children say ?Already it arrived dad or mum, now begin with his fight?, apart from traumatic is horrible for you go out to the street to look that your home is a magic world. I know you the one who supply the fuel to keep lit this engine called love.
It can that it was not a ? paulo coelho? The one who with more certainty could not say:
IF you THINK THAT THE ADVENTURE IS DANGEROUS, TESTS THE ROUTINE, IS MORTAL
Sometimes think that what the majority outside presents or says to be of another level, does not compare with the problems in the home, when you prefer to go out with your friends because with them will not argue or because simply they do not say you at all in truth are you doing a selfish favour to you same, but, What there is of your children or couple? My intensión, is not only arrive to the men that like head of home are responsible of the values inside the house, but also to those women that look for excuses to hide his fault of interest for getting along the things. Many times they want to have reason in everything and go back slaves of the paper of victims, is not my intensión offend them saying this, but they take in account that have to autoevaluarse and put his grain of sand to keep or recover the harmony home.
Anyway.
I expect that of some form this post help you to understand part of the problems that live daily and especially to as sobrellevarlos, do not allow that by the fact to be happening a bad moment home die the love, have present that no only will see you affected you, but also your wife and children. Your children are the future of your legacy and is responsibility of mum and dad teach them by the way of the well, when you feel that of some form the love is turning off procures to put of your part and redo again the foundations or necessary bases to have a home in peace and harmony.
This is my family.
No all the world has the said to marry with a good woman and worse still is that a lot of people can not have children was as it was my point is that we have to value what have and what in your home have attained. I do not want to present me like the perfect man, on the contrary, defects have and many, also concern me by what will eat tomorrow, pay the accounts, watch because to my wife and son did not be them at all. But sobretodo keep present the valuable treasure that have.
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