There is always a point, when the relationship isn't as heavenly as it once was, that anger comes in, nagging becomes the other of the day, tempers flare, and you find it difficult to tolerate but this is the moment where y'all must strive, for the relationship to work.
Let take this relatable example; when women are overwhelmed either at home or place of work it tells on her behavior and she tends to become angry at little thing which of course males her not to be her usual self.
She's been married for three years and never has she felt so disconnected from her husband as she has in these recent weeks due to things bothering her and couldn't find a way to communicate it to her husband and this makes her feel
Slight repulsion.
Budding distaste.
Insipidity.
Bland efforts at affection.
Something wasn't right, she knew it and silently hoped her husband hadn't noticed.
But he might mayne he felt the same way.
Sometimes she notices him staring at her as she lays on the couch. She catches him stealing glimpses at her while she prepares for work.
And she, sometimes recently wakes at night and abhorrently looks at him while he sleeps.
They hadn't quarrelled. No disagreements but somehow, they just don't communicate the way they normally do.
In her heart are several questions;
Why did I marry him?
Is he the best for me?
I don't like the way he snores.
Sometimes he talks too much.
He's not as handsome as I even thought.
And in his own conflicting thoughts he asks;
What was I thinking?
Imagine those stretch marks on her tummy, she's not even doing enough to take care of her body.
Her food is most times salty.
And without her makeup she's not different from other women.
It is at this point that y'all are needed to be responsible, committed and true to the sanctity of marriage or relationship. It starts it and leaves it at the mercy of tolerance, forgiveness, commitment. It is at this point that most marriages or relationship fail. Every marriage or relationship goes through this. And unfortunately most crack at this phase.
But it's very necessary, for gold endures the test of fire to be made whole and pure. Believe me, love doesn't keep a union.
Marriage or relationship is work, don't be deceived, and don't venture init if you ain't ready. And this is and would continue as a result of REVULSION - the gradual or sudden change of affection from a deep feeling of love to intense repugnance, disgust and withdrawal. Just like talent not being enough to make you successful, so is love not enough to keep your relationship or marriage going. You need commitment, forgiveness and good communication everytime.