Dear Sir,
you make me proud. You just chose to work on your personality, your looks and your way of living. This is the first step of many to become a real gentleman and more important than that - to surpass yourself.
Let’s begin.
What is a gentleman?
A gentleman is defined as a men with high standards. A men of class and taste with correct behavior at all times. They are an enrichment for every social gathering and therefore admired and respected by many. Due to mastering social interactions and acquiring universal knowledge, they are remembered as exceptional and remarkable persons.
Who can become a Gentleman?
Every single man on this planet that is ready to act upon his inner good intentions. A man from lower or higher class - no matter the age.
You.
Everybody can learn to have consistently considerate, thoughtful, gracious and charming behavior, even in the most difficult of circumstances. To acquire knowledge and master rhetoric. To purposefully use the non-verbal communication.
Take the first step and see for yourself!
First steps on the journey of becoming a gentleman
You already mastered the first step of becoming a gentleman by searching for this blog. This search indicates that you are ready for a change. That you are capable of being part of the gentleman club.
For the sake of completeness, however, I will go through even the simplest and most obvious steps.
Take care of yourself
“Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.”
– Deborah Day
Keep a strict routine. Shower and brush your teeth daily. Use deodorant.
Groom yourself at least once a week - this includes trimming your beard & body hair and taking care of your nails. Pluck your nose hair.
Buy clothes that fit your body type. Have something to wear for every occasion. Wash and iron your clothes regularly. Acquire knowledge about how to combine them.
Invest in good shoes and suits. Keep them clean at all times. Use shoe trees immediately after taking your shoes off.
Improve yourself
“An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.”
-Benjamin Franklin
Ask yourself. Would your life be different within a year if you improved yourself every single day? It definitely would.
Any habit - even the most obstinate - can be changed. So start transforming bad habits into good ones. Start working out and eating right. Start to read books and newspapers. Be aware what happens in the world.
Get closer to your ideal self step by step. And soon you will be a different man.
Start your journey with those must-reads for every gentleman.
How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie
For more than sixty years the rock-solid, time-tested advice in this book has carried thousands of now famous people up the ladder of success in their business and personal lives.
With more than fifteen million copies sold, How to Win Friends and Influence People is one of the best known motivational books in history, with proven advice for achieving success in life.
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
Hill studied the habits of powerful and rich people and evolved 16 “laws” to be applied to achieve success. Think and Grow Rich condenses them, providing the reader with 13 principles in the form of a “Philosophy of Achievement”.
The Richest Man In Babylon by George S. Clason
Beloved by millions, this timeless classic holds the key to all you desire and everything you wish to accomplish. This is a great gift for a graduate or anyone who seems baffled by the world of finance and a wonderful, refreshing read for even the most experienced investor.
The Magic Of Thinking Big
Build confidence in yourself. Think and dream creatively. Turn defeat into victory. This book is all about being successful and becoming the perfect version of yourself.
If you think that you don’t have enough time for reading, reconsider.
Instead of listening to music while driving to work, listen to audiobooks.
Change the way you are spending your time. It is you who controls your mind and your body. And therefore you are in charge.
Make every second count.
Get out of your comfort zone
“Our largest fear carries our greatest growth.”
-Mengen McCrary
Explore new things. Make yourself uncomfortable and conquer your fears. Get out of your apartment and sip on a coffee while reading your book in a coffee shop. Talk to people that seem interesting to you. Make new contacts. Grow your network.
Work on your habits - especially on your eating and exercise habits.
Inhale new knowledge.
Conclusion
You began your journey. You are on the perfect way to become a gentleman. Be strong. And believe in yourself. I certainly do.
Keep on working on yourself. And keep on improving. You are worth it!