Everyday we would continue to learning new things in life and it based on what some of our brain can really catch up with. But the essence of learning is for the everyone involved in it to be at the right path and should be able to arrive with vital conclusions.
Be kind or cruel to human being is not only based on whether situation you find yourself, Sometimes it depends on the upbringing of people to feel aroused while in the midst of people who need help. But the question I often asked people is that why would you help someone at last you will be seen as bad person.
To me helping one is kind either by granting or lending him or her one thing to the person who need it at that time. But while rendering assistance to people in what ever situation you found yourself whether you are philanthropist or lending please make sure that you don't offer what you can forget. Because it is easy to be emotional carried away with people's crocodile tears.
It look easy for them to get the help but when it come to returning it, this would be another thing entirely and even people around them would continue to blame you why would you have render such assistance without consulting them. I do ask one question must we asked for the behavior of anyone who you feel you should grant favor to before doing that.
And many responses were human being are wicked, thay tends to feel sober when they are in need of favor from you, but after they have gotten what they are looking for they changed their attitudes towards their benefactor. This behavior or attitude of an ingrate give the benefactor sense of humour about other people coming to seek for assistance that they possess the same habit which land the rest with humility and self esteem into problems of not getting such assistance from the benefactor.
Let learn from everywhere and let every lesson we have learnt be with us often and that would be a deterrent to others, if I have lend you something and you promised to return when dew. you should be able to keep to your promise and if you don't, you're hindering others from getting help. But am not saying people should stop extending their hands of favor to people but what an saying in essence is that you should give what you can forget.