I know everyone thinks of happiness as if it was something that gets achieved and begins to work as a permanent state of being.
Also a common misconception would be that its a state of ecstatic blissfulness. Most people don't really bother making the difference between ecstasy and happiness.
In this article we will have an empirical overview of the concept named "Happiness".
Mechanics
Every feeling at its core is derived from some sort of experience that acts as a main trigger or in other words , an ignition switch.
This means that to be "Happy" one would need some sort of interaction to occur, hence triggering an excitation. Looking at it a bit deeper we see that this excitation is caused due to a chemical reaction within the body itself, which leads us to a conclusion that these states are not much different than making a reaction happen in chemistry . This leads us to another conclusion that they have a peak and a die off period. Thus we see that one can't really keep hold of the peak itself, the peak being this permanent state of ecstasy that most referee to.
A more easier way of interpreting this would be taking drugs as an example. We get a burst of "Whatever" due to a chemical reaction within the body. Afterwards this leading to a die off.
The negatives of a forced reaction
We did say that there is a die off period within the aforementioned scheme. This die off period is caused due to the ware and tare or in other words the toll caused to the body as it needs some time to return to its balanced and optimal working scheme.
This means that the more we brute force our emotions into a roller coaster ride the more unstable our bio chemistry gets and the harder it becomes to keep a balanced state.
Adaptation
There is one thing that must be mentioned though. We as human beings are made in such a way that we are able to adapt to different circumstances. This is why spirituality is revered to be as a type or up and down scheme. The more we push ourselves in any given direction, our tolerance to its circumstances rises.
Let me share one great quote as an example.
The mind is like a muscle.
And if you want it to be really powerful, you have to work it out.
Each new fact brings you another choice.
Each new idea build another muscle.
And those muscles are going to make you really strong, those are your weapons.
For example, the more you get bombarded with negativity, the more indifferent you get in time to it. Not due to the fact that you just don't want it, but due to the fact that these chemical imbalances it creates get processed and act just like a muscle, the body adapts and resists them in the future. The same goes for the mind too as body and mind are interconnected in some occasions.
Overall
From all the aforementioned we can now derive that in order for us to be more happy we need to push ourselves towards expanding our "Muscles" in such a way that we may support a bigger weight.
Just look at it as carrying a box of happiness. Sooner or later your muscles will get tired and you will drop it.
So my suggestion is. Start small, start with something you can carry as much as you want and build on top of that. And one day you might find yourself being able to carry a weight seen impossible in the eyes of others.