Happiness is not the absence of problems, itâs the ability to deal with them. When you love what have, you have everything you need. Itâs safe to say that the happier you are the more beautiful you become. Happiness is a choice. You just need to take a step towards it. Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life. Tip toe if you must, but take the step. Saying yes to happiness means learning to say no to the things and people that stress you out.
Buying a new clothing or winning a memechallenge will make you happy for a short time, but it wonât last, so on todayâs finding happiness series, weâd be looking at some of the secrets of achieving long term lifelong happiness:
Learn how to say âNOâ
Learn the art of saying no. Donât lie, donât make excuses, and donât over-explain yourself. Just simply decline. You have to learn to say no without feeling guilty. Setting boundaries is healthy. You need to learn to respect and take care of yourself. Being too nice may not gain you enemies, but itâll surely gain you users and abusers. Donât allow this to happen, learn to say no and turn away when you must. Itâs only by saying âNoâ that you can concentrate on the things that are really important. When you do things that you love, you recharge your happiness batteries. This will make your life more fulfilled and help you become a happier person. Learn to say âNoâ to the good so you can say âYesâ to the best.
Donât worry, be happy
Life is like a camera. Focus on whatâs important, Capture the good times, Develop from the negatives, and if things donât work outâŚ.Take another shot. The happiest people donât have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything. Worrying is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but doesnât get you anywhere.
Help others when you can
If you really want to receive joy and happiness, then serve others with all your heart. Lift their burden, and your own burden will be lighter. The best feeling of happiness is when youâre happy because youâve made somebody else happy. We canât help everyone, but everyone can help someone. Helping others is the way we help ourselves. Helping others is the secret sauce to a happy life.
Donât forget the people that you love
In life you will realize there is a role for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you, some will love you, and some will teach you. But the ones who are truly important are the ones who bring out the best in you. They are the rare and amazing people who remind you why itâs worth it. Donât forget to tell your favourite people that you love them. Happiness starts at home to donât forget your family and friends. Having a soul mate is not always about love. You can find your soul mate in a friendship too.
Get some quiet time alone
Often the best gift you can give yourself is time alone. Some time to ask yourself questions and listen quietly for answers. Sometimes you need to be alone in order to find out who you really are and what you really want in life. If you donât know how to be alone, you donât know who you are.
Look on the bright side of life
Look at the bright side of life and choose to be happy. Yes, it is a matter of choice. When negative thoughts enter your mind, just refuse to look at them, substitute them with happy thoughts. You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside. No one ever got blind by looking on the bright side of life.
Set achievable goals
The most important thing about goals is having one. Set a goal that makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning. Goals, thereâs no telling what you can do when you get inspired by them, thereâs no telling what you can do when you believe in them. And thereâs no telling what will happen when you act upon them. The only barriers in life are the ones we create in our minds.
Praise yourself along the way
Allow yourself to be proud of yourself and all the progress youâve made especially the progress that no one else has seen. The most effective way to boost self-esteem is to praise yourself.
Pick your friends wisely
Choose your friends wisely. There are some who would push you to the top. There are others who would keep pushing youâŚover the cliff. You cannot change the people around you. But you can change the people that you choose to be around.
Be kind to yourself
You will never speak to anyone more than you speak to yourself in your head, be kind to yourself. Trust yourself, create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.
I hope youâve found usefulness in this article and these advises somehow will help you to feel happier. Thank you for taking out time to read this and donât forget to follow and Upvote!
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OJ.