Why do people have sex? Surely not just for procreation. Sexual feelings cannot be defined as it is one of the best feelings in the world especially when done with the right partner. The climax of every sexual intercourse is orgasm or so most people believe. Research has shown that men experience orgasm more than women. This is due to the fact that women require direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm and not all sexual positions provide access to the clitoris.
Orgasm differs between individuals and individual orgasm differs in the same person. Orgasm is a feeling of intense sexual pleasure that occurs during sexual activity. It feels like a volcanic eruption is about to happen, shaking the body with a pulsating feeling leading to muscle contraction, quivering of the upper thigh, increase in heartbeats and breathing. The waves of pleasure it sends from the belly button to the genitals cannot be equated.
Over the years, it has been a known and acceptable fact that about 55-65% of woman fake orgasm at least once in their lives.
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DO YOU KNOW MEN ALSO FAKE ORGASM?
Research has shown that about 17-25% of men fake orgasm at least once in their lives. I guess you are imagining how they do it? After all a man's orgasm is evident and so cannot be faked. Well, condom is the answer. Some men even go as far as secretly spitting on their partner. Orgasm leads to muscle contraction which causes semen containing sperm to spurt out of the penis and that's what women look out for as a prove that orgasm has occurred.
Men are seen as the ones always thinking about sex and looking for a way to score a lady in bed. Women believe men are always seeking ways to prolong the time it takes them to ejaculate and not shorter it. This is the problem with sex, it is built around a man's orgasm. If he doesn't make a woman come then he is not good in bed. If on the other hand, he doesn't come then it simply means he didn't enjoy the sex. Making a man have orgasm gives a woman a send of pride for bringing him to the finish line but men do not require the experience of orgasm during every sexual encounter in order to be sexually satisfied.
HOW DO MEN FAKE ORGASM?
A faked orgasm involves a lot of acting. A lot of vocal sounds to indicate moaning, deep thrusting and thrashing about and then suddenly withdraw and a rush to dispose of the condom without allowing you a peek at the content. It could also be a verbal indication that orgasm has just occurred. One in every ten woman have been left wondering before if indeed an orgasm happened.
Men do not like to fake orgasm and when they do, it is usually for a reason. They could be suffering from An orgasmia. It is a condition of being unable to orgasm during sex even when one is sexually aroused and there is sufficient sexual stimulation. Orgasmic dysfunctional can be caused by so many factors such as stress, anxiety, depression, guilt etc.
REASONS WHY MEN FAKE ORGASM
Sex became too long and boring: this could be as a result of an unresponsive partner.
To conceal premature ejaculation: premature ejaculation can be caused by stress, anxiety and so on and no man wants to be seen as a two minute man.
To preserve his pride: when a man loses an erection during sex, they are not able to orgasm and ejaculate and so the opt for the easy way out. It is easier to fake it than explain it.
Because she wants simultaneous orgasm: this is one of the make believes of novels and the media world. It is not possible for two vehicles that left the park at the same time headed toward same location to arrive at the exact same time.
They want the sex to end. The partner is obviously bored and she won't asking when he would come. This tires the man and kills the mood.
Studies have shown that men who fake orgasm are happier in the relationship because they do it with good intentions, to give their partners extra pleasure. It is okay not to have orgasm once in a while but if you find yourself always faking it then you need help.
HOW TO STOP FAKING ORGASM
Talk to a physician: your physician should be able to investigate the underlying cause and proffer solution.
Find out what works for you: everybody has their exotic content. What is your precondition during sex? Clean sheets? Lights off? Soft music? Discover what relaxes you and puts you in the mood.
Value your pleasure: think about yourself during sex. Get your partner to do things you love. You can also introduce lubricant as they are known to make the genitals more sensitive to touch.
Masturbate: self stimulation is recommended to help you discover what stimulates you. Talk to your partner about it.
Avoid drug abuse and alcohol.
Talk to a therapist: if all the above doesn't work then it is imperative you talk to a therapist as it could be as a result of emotional issues. Visit a sex therapist to help you understand why you are having difficulty experiencing an authentic orgasm.
The key to ensuring that both you and your partner have a beautiful time between the sheets is to stop thinking of the orgasm as the end game. Don't make orgasm the focus. Think of sex as a fun sport.
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