Amen love your post here especially

"Moving away from that is often scarier than the unhappy reality we live in."

I used to hate it when I say girls in an abusive relationship only to realize finally I was in an abusive relationship with an inanimate object (alcohol) and would not let it go because life without it was scarier than the predictable unhappiness until I got honest about the upcoming consequences and the fear of death kicked in. I think a lot of us have been through at least mild emotional abuse if not worse in a relationship and I am grateful I now am able to be understanding instead of judgemental.