Have you ever had the impression that you have the same thoughts that your parents used to have? Do you use the same expressions your mother or father used? Are you going through similar experiences like parents? Identifies the traumas of childhood in order to move on to the next step, that of emotional healing.
Do you feel your parents do not pay enough attention? Do not I love you the way you want it, or do I love you too much and can not stop controlling you?
Do you have mixed feelings with your parents, such as love-hate, fear-love, love-wrath, love-shame, and feel confused or guilty about what you feel?
Do you feel that you can not reach your life goals as much as you can, or as much as you try?
Have you been abused in childhood, have there been abuse cases in your family, or have your parents generally had a relationship based on dislike, disharmony?
If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then the following article may help.
What determines who we really are and why some people never change or why change is so painful and difficult?
Although we are unique individuals, in most cases we become:
What we have as an example from the elders
What they told us we should be
What they told us to "not" be
What they feared we could be
What they want for them
What they wanted for them, but they gave up
Moreover, we have inherited from our parents all the challenges of past generations. They were not able or unable to figure out how to solve them, and let them pass to the next generation.
What is very absurd and yet funny is that after the passing of time, parents no longer recognize the parts of themselves that are transferred to children. They do not recognize the parts they themselves passed through when they were children, and they are surprised by the behavioral patterns that children develop at every stage of their lives.
For many parents, it is very difficult to remember all these things, which consist of painful memories most of the times, and the negative emotions that in most cases carry them back all their lives.
Often we learn what life is, but we forget that childhood is the most important stage for both mental, emotional and physical health.
Even if people say "little children are too small to understand," or "they forget too easily, so they will not remember what happened to them when they were little," things are not that. In fact, we develop both memories and attitudes even small, even when we are in the womb.
Although we do not have too many images to accurately remind us of the things that have happened, what we definitely remember is the emotional background. It supported our development or was against it. The emotional side of the human brain is able to distinguish between "positive" and "negative" from the fetal stage. This means a few years earlier than the stage in which we develop our ability to analyze and think logically, a stage that can give us solutions to get rid of negativity.
At puberty, all existing visions and ideas "explode"
Sex hormones give the brain the fuel to develop what already exists. The presence of seborrheic hormones exponentially intensifies the emotions and human ideas that have been received since early infancy. These hormones give the power of materialization to all inner, good or bad inner "programs", so people usually spend many years behaving as dictated by these inner programs, not being able to do anything to stop them.
Everything we see, perceive, and feel in the first years of life will determine our future very much, at least until we decide to change something. Most of the time, when we try to change the original programs imprinted in our brains, we come to the conclusion that it is too difficult to make change, sometimes it seems almost impossible, especially when emotional programs are very intense, and we prefer to Remain where we are, from convenience.
Unfortunately, for many people, "programming" during childhood is based on very painful memories and negativity, which simply consumes much of the vital energy. Negativism is in most cases directly related to traumatic events and it is good to know that if they are not healed, they create very strong human brain damage. Of course, these injuries keep untouched the memory of trauma and everything related to that "undercover" event and lead people to create the circuit of new traumatic events. The lesions heal as soon as the traumatic event is healed, because the human brain has an extraordinary ability of self-regeneration.
Many people intend to flee from pain and suffering
They try to live against parenting patterns, but some of them are so powerful that they can destroy physical and mental health if the person tries to resist or move away. If these "programs" are not recognized by the person as foreign, they can act like a Trojan virus inside the consciousness.
Situations are generally more complicated when misunderstandings and quarrels between parents and people present children with other life examples that are totally opposed to parents' beliefs, at a time when very high tensions sometimes come to feelings of hatred or emotional abuse reciprocal.
Parents are a living part of the child's psyche - if there was any kind of "war" between the parents, this war automatically continues to exist in its psyche where it will grow and will not stop for many years, but in this case , The person will struggle with himself, he will live his life as his own enemy: everything he does is wrong (here are the roots of most diseases - cancer, hormonal problems, neurosis, psychosis, schizophrenia).
Removing internal negative patterns does not help
In most cases, people are instinctively trying to erase negative childhood programs with drugs, alcohol or prescription drugs, not knowing that understanding is a necessary factor in healing, but things are not that simple. Negative parental programming is so deeply inscribed that the brain and the rest of the body would be much easier to destroy with the substances mentioned above. Many people are mentally, physically and chronically ill. That's because they fail to grasp the profound influence of the negative memories they have accumulated in their childhood and have destroyed their bodies over the years, because childhood traumas are consuming human vital energy. It is far easier to blame for parasites, bacteria, viruses and genes, but childhood traumas are the first. They are door opener for other diseases. Moreover, past traumas attract new traumatic events.
Many are trying to save themselves, to get rid of pain and lack of love (feeling of abandonment) felt in childhood through religion and spirituality, because the spiritual energy of love is sufficient to neutralize the negative memories of childhood.
Of course, if the chosen religious or spiritual path is full of doctrines, prejudices and sermons on punishment, apocalypse, and pricing on victimization, then parental chains are replaced by religious ones. In this case, childhood traumas are not healed, but only replaced by others, which come as a complement to what we already know, to the things we were accustomed to. But some run away from any religion because they are intuitively aware of the fact that they do not want new chains.
All the problems that we have as a society of this planet (wars, economic crisis, incompetent governments, imatural politicians and leading countries, injustice, pollution, overpopulation) all have roots in negative programming from all previous generations : People are leading this planet, being conditioned by the childhood program, being wounded at the same time as childhood traumas. They continue to hurt others as long as they are not healed because they are not inspired by love because they have not received such a thing in their childhood, so they can not offer something they have not received, something that they do not know what And how it is.
How can negative parenting patterns be cured and childhood trauma cured?
Parental programming is very complex, as is the complex way in which we understand and filter the information received from the outside at the stage of adolescence. If you feel that you fail, whatever you do, you can not reach your goals in life, then you should consider the childhood memories and the mental and emotional programming received at that stage to see what blocks you, what information you are not Let go on the way that you want.
How can I neutralize this programming that consumes vital energy?
1. First of all, try to recognize the influence of parenting on your life. Do not underestimate the influence of parents and those who cared for you and your education on your decisions. When we were children, our parents were like gods for us, and we were taught to think what they thought was best for us, so for years we did so much to thank our parents Or to annoy them, even if I was not aware of what I was doing.
Very important for personal development and for our inner peace is to live our lives as our inner voice tells us, our soul, not to live it the way others want or just to thank them.
2. The second step is to understand the reasons for your parents when they have conditioned you or when they have given you negative mental and emotional energy. This step requires profound and empathic analysis, you must try to put yourself in your parents' skin and see, understand things from their perspective. Without understanding, it is not possible to heal yourself, because the traumatic experience can not be freed from your inner program, as long as it is not understood.
At the end of the analysis, it is often concluded that parents have only copied the mistakes of their parents, mistakes copied by many generations. Unfortunately, many people become parents even if they are not prepared for this stage, and they get here driven by hormones and not by emotional maturity, so mistakes are very common.
You may need to heal these traumas by a neutral person to guide you (counselor, therapist, friends), to help you overcome these two steps, but also through the next steps.
3. What alternative tools can I use as healing aid?
We can neutralize our negative memories and programming with slow brain waves, which are produced only during deep sleep, and conscious in meditation. Unfortunately for many, we can not sleep as long as we need to heal all the traumas we have accumulated throughout our lives, otherwise some of us should sleep a lot and have a quiet sleep like Sleeping Beauty. Relaxation techniques and meditation come to our aid to cure past traumas in a more efficient and conscious way.
Alternative techniques for healing childhood traumas:
1. There are different meditations and visualization techniques that connect us with our high consciousness, which is pure love and understanding and which helps us to:
Develop self-love and develop strong feelings of protection here and now;
We change perceptions and attitudes towards childhood problems;
While changing our emotions developed in the past, meditation helps heal the past and neutralize unpleasant memories, keeping focus on the positive ones;
We develop positive emotions that we have not been able to feel, to live with.
What if I'm not ready to meditate?
2. If you are not prepared to go into meditation, listen to relaxation music, this is an excellent way for the brain to produce slow, healing emotions, and gradually releases traumatic experiences.
Try this:
- Start thinking of a traumatic experience that hurt you or a negative emotion you wear from that time, but no more than 1 minute. After that, while you are still connected to memories, start the music of relaxation and listen to it for at least 5 minutes, leaving the energy of the music to calm you and change the emotions. Take a 10-15 minute break. After the break, come back to that experience again, you will be surprised to notice that this time you will not feel as much pain as last time. Repeat these steps as many times as needed.*
Usually a traumatic event can be cured if the exercise is repeated 5-10 times. You can repeat this process in one day, or over several days. Sometimes it is too painful to repeat the same day and it takes a little time between exercises. Repeat the procedure to the point where the images of the trauma will be quite erased, not having power over you.
3. Healing with energy is very useful!
Shamanic practice, Reiki, bio-energy, Munay-Ki rituals, Theta healing, crystal therapy, aromatherapy - raise the level of vital energy. Cures emotional and traumatic events and allows the person to feel, in the end, deeply loved.
4.Homeopathy can help a lot - homeopathy is not only for curing certain diseases, there are many extraordinary remedies that are capable of neutralizing fears and helping to create positive emotions and inner peace feelings, thus helping you to cope more easily Events in your life.
5. Developing self-love is a vital step. Love heals everything but none of us can receive the love of others and can not give it as long as it does not love itself.
6. Forgiveness is understanding
Forgiveness is both mentally and emotionally, though it is easier when emotions are released by forgiveness.
One of the best viewing exercises for forgiving a childhood person (mother, father, grandfather, grandmother, sister, brother - whichever one took care of you at that time) is to imagine that person As a child who needs help - people make mistakes because they do not know how to deal with the problems they face and feel trapped.
The act of forgiveness most often influences the relationship with parents so that a different level of communication will be created. When this happens, you can tell them what they did right for you when they hurt you and what the effects of these things were in your life. They need to know these things and accept their share of responsibility if they can do so. If you do this, you will help yourself to give up the posture of a victim developed in childhood. If your parents do not want to support your positive change, or do not want to give up their negative influence in your life, the best solution is to avoid them as much as possible, otherwise you will still be hurt and never completely cured.
Besides the forgiveness of others, our pardon is equally important. Sometimes we feel pushed by an inner force to do certain things, thus creating self-guilt. This often worsens things. Behavior can only be changed when we understand what created this specific behavior, and forgive both ourselves and others.
7. Implement new positive programs, life goals and increase mental and emotional positivity as much as possible.
8. Through all these stages you will find out what your own desires are in your life. You will learn to hear and listen to the inner voice of wisdom. This will improve your life and make you happy in your own skin.