Heartbreaks are never easy.
And seeing other people (especially those dear to me) go through heartbreaks also brings me pain. It becomes even more painful when the heartbroken person remains heartbroken despite your well-meaning efforts to console him/her.
Even more painful is when the heartbroken person dismisses your encouragement that there is a Person, in His incredible wisdom, who allowed this heartbreak to happen and continue. The heartbroken person will then conclude, "That is crap. But if that's the case, I do not want to believe in this Person anymore."
Heartbreaks are never easy.
But while I am one of the fortunate ones who have managed to get out of this horrible rut (that I've been stuck in for three years), I acknowledge that overcoming a heartbreak is really an immense feat. However, part of how I started to heal involved understanding that a broken heart is worth it, especially if it means a new heart that will beat only for the things and people who are worth it.
I used to pray for nothing else but for my heart to be restored again. But that season of heartbreak had to last for a time longer than what I thought was bearable for me, because I needed to see the things that were valuable and were worth my life.
And I kept stalling because it was so painful. It was a classic demonstrating of what Hebrews calls "shaking what can be shaken so only the unshakable remain. ".
But in the end, the unshakable remain. In my case, the Lover of my soul and a heart that beats for and is surrendered to Him only.
These are what our loving Father offers. A process of pruning and a journey that can be painful, in exchange for a life that is unshakable.
It will take grace for us to choose what is better. And God offers that too.
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