Taking No Prisoners
The world will break your heart in the blink of an eye.., without so much as a second glance. It will just reach in and rip it right out of your chest.., and stamp on it a few times as it goes on it's way… And it can happen in ways you've never imagined.., never dreamed possible -- only it is.., and it happens to all of us.
Whether it's missing that shot with one second left on the clock to win the championship, only to hear the sound of the buzzer -- the sound that breaks your heart.., and the one you will hear over and over again in your nightmares. Catching your brand new bride banging your best friend in the bed you both share, in the house you bought to start your new life… Being rejected from the college of your dreams even though you did everything you possibly could could to ensure acceptance.
I could go on and on, unfortunately -- but I think you get the picture…
Nobody is ever prepared to -- hit rock bottom!
And nobody knows how they will react when it happens, either… But the one thing you do know is, the sky is falling.., and it just landed directly on your head. And you never saw it coming… But as you sit, lie crumbled in a ball, unable to grasp the unthinkable -- the world continues to on, all around you…
Even if you have a strong support system, people who care about you and your well-being.., it doesn't really help -- it can actually make things worse. People fawning all over just enforces the fact that your are living your worst nightmare. Although their hearts are in the right place -- it just doesn't help…
You just want to be left alone to wollow in your own pity...
All the best intentions in the world, cannot ease your suffering.., and for maybe the first time in your life.., you have no idea what to do. How could the world be so cruel.., and continue to rotate -- as your world is spinning out of control. And the fact that we all go through are own private hell, is no comfort, either.
We all have our own challenges to deal with.., but getting hit over the head with a sledge hammer is no fun for anyone, to say the least. And, it can feel like you might never recover.., but letting yourself go through it, is the only way out -- the only way to actually learn from such a dire experience.
Punching the wall, crying in the shower and screaming at the heavens.., are all things you might consider -- and actually do. And that's okay! All those sleepless nights, reliving your devastation will seem like your only friend.., and a prison at the same time.
We've all heard the quote by Nietzche -- "That which does not kill us makes us stronger." And while, such an meaningful quote, used by people worldwide in times of crisis -- it can be dangerous… It lends itself to the -- "Im a man, I can take it" which can in effect cheat you out of this very valuable experience. No matter your good attitude, some things you will never recover from completely.., and believing you can, can be dangerous both physically and mentally.
It's okay, to be damaged.., broken -- we are just human for chrissakes!
Bouncing Back
Believe it or not, you will eventually, join the living again… And even though you might not be stronger.., there's a good chance you will be wiser, more compassionate, empathetic -- human… Hitting rock bottom.., having your heartbroken -- which ever term you prefer, they are quintessential moments in your life.., and how you react to these moments will define you are, who you become…
We all have our weak spots.., and knowing what they are will only serve you in the future. And though we might not like to admit, it's okay to be weak, to not carry the burden of the world on your shoulders -- to ask for help when the world around us has come crumbling down.
And when you come out the other side.., when that wave of turmoil and sadness, decides to go wreck someone else's life.., that very same heart that was just ripped to pieces, can be filled with love and joy just as easy… When the sight of the sun rising at the crack of dawn brings a smile to your face.., and the touch of a significant other pierces your skin and enters your soul.., then and only then.., will you realize all that devastation was actually necessary!
P.S.,
I hadn't even thought of the last line in the movie Silver Linings Playbook.., “The world will break your heart ten ways to Sunday, that’s guaranteed. And I can’t begin to explain that, or the craziness inside myself and everybody else but guess what? Sunday is my favorite day again. I think of everything everyone did for me and I feel like a very lucky guy.” when I started to write this.., but I do know when people make great movies they are usually super entertaining, extremely fantastical, transporting you to whole new different worlds that live inside someones imagination… Or they are movies we all can relate too, that hit so close to home they actually ring true…
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