Selling an idea depends on how you package your content for the end consumer to understand it in plain English, and subscribe to it forever. Remember that night you practiced how you would propose the next day to the girl of your dreams.
A friend of mine Mailik young vibrant and full of energy and big dreams with a promising future has dated 6 girls in his life. Great news, he has proved he is a man. Bad news, all the girls have broken up with him, the reason being money. He has lived every day waiting on God to surprise him with his next meal or money to run errands.
That begs the question, is he lazy and not doing his best to change his life. Basing on my observation and interacting with him, am more than convinced he is tired of the financial impairment and desperately wants to change his life for the better. I see him doing his best to reach out to people who would accept to take him on for the kind of trade his skilled at.
As human beings, we all have a craving for emotional attachment. Him being a man, he would pride to prove to society that he is not a bam.
Mailik narrated to me about this one particular girl that rocked his world more than the other girls he has dated. He describes her as one with the smile that could have softened Hitler’s heart if he were still alive. Her voice made nature bow down when she said anything, her character, and charming laugh could get her passed the statehouse security point without need of presenting credentials and she was the envy of her sisters because they could not understand why men sought after her, like as if she was the only child in the family.
In that regard, Mailik did everything in his powers to keep her around him and not have a reason to look for love elsewhere. He borrowed to maintain her lifestyle, he lied to many to have access to some resources in the name of this princess charming madam and to cement the relationship, he introduced her to his family.
But then times became tough. Mailik’s gigs were always unpredictable. The kind of OFF and ON season gigs. He could not keep up with borrowing money due to the unpaid debts. Tired of lying because his Christian values clashed with such sin. The lady grew tired of seeing unfulfilled promises from Mailik. Then she called it quits.
Her reason for quitting according to Mailik, were far off from the money issues. She argued that Mailik’s family didn’t show her affection the other day when she paid a visit, she claimed she was blocking his future and it was time for Mailik to figure out his future without her, yet from the very beginning Mailik revolved to do anything to see to it that both create a prosperous future. Mailik’s voiced told me something he verbally didn’t mention. But I sensed that she pulled the plug because money had stopped flowing in as usual.
Then boom he finally said “ if I had the money to maintain her lifestyle, she would not have left me, regardless of the predicaments. She would have hanged in there and proved that our love was watered by love and not how much money I had in the account”.
If I was to have a glimpse of how my father proposed to my mother and what he did to maintain the love, I bet money was the last item on the list during their generation. However, times have changed and so has society and technology. I don’t want to argue on the discourse that girls or women are after who has more of the paper. I strongly believe, there are hundreds of women who are willing to fall in love and money not being such a big requirement.
So what is your take, can love survive without money or not? I would love to hear your thoughts.