- Being a household leader
Basically, all human beings are leaders. They have the duty and ability to be a leader on earth. For an individual, he is a leader for himself. Man must be able to do the way of eliminating the selfish and able to control his lust.however, especially for men, they have been given the advantage by God to be a leader, especially in the family sphere.
Men after marriage have a primary duty as a household leader. As a leader, he is obliged to nurture, model and make the best decisions for his family.in a family, a wife is obliged to obey her husband as a leader in the family. This could be tips to be a good wife and loved husband.
- Teaching the science of religion
Not only as a leader, men after marriage are also required to teach religion to their wives and children. He must be able to set an example in doing religious teachings.do not stop there, the role of the father in the family according to Islam is to straighten his wife and children if there are actions that are inconsistent with the teachings of Al Quran and hadith.
Therefore, a man is obliged to study the science of religion, even before marriage. He must understand what is forbidden and commanded in Islam.so, after marriage later the man can teach the religion to his family. This is one way of building a sakinah family in Islam.
- Protecting wives and children
In relation to the previous point, by teaching the religion of wives and children a man has performed one of the other obligations.one of the obligations is to protect the wife and children from the fire of hell. Household life in Islam must be based on the science of religion in the Qur'an and hadith.
Not only that, a man after marriage must also be able to protect his family from evil and danger. For example, protecting wives from defamation, protecting children from bad people, and so on.
4.maintain family pride
A wife is a dress for her husband. Instead, a husband is a dress from his wife. That means a married couple should be able to keep their dignity and honor each other. It is forbidden for a husband to share his wife's disgrace.if it is done, then the same husband opened his own shame and it could be one of the husbands sifap husbands to the wife.
For that, it is necessary for husbands to do ways to avoid defamation behavior. If he can maintain his own honor, then he can also maintain the dignity and honor of his family.
5.give a living
It is undeniable that earning a living is a primary duty of a man after marriage. A man is obliged to work to meet the needs of his wife and children.the need could be food, clothing and shelter for his family.
However, it turns out the obligation to give a man a living not only stop in a material livelihood. The husband should also be able to fulfill his inner livelihood to his wife. What is the inner living? Inner livelihood can be tranquility, sense of security, happiness and so on.a husband should be able to make his wife and children happy, while happiness will not be measurable with money alone. Maybe for that you need to know how happy happy and inborn wife.
- Stay filial to parents
Sometimes there is a misguidance that currently applies in our society.many people assume that the obligation of a man after marriage is limited to the new family he forms with his wife. In fact, in Islam a man remains a child to his mother and is obliged to worship his mother.there is a virtuous virtue to parents according to Islam which must still be lived by a man, even after marriage.
This may be different from that of a woman, who so married her devotion will move on to her husband. For men, parents, especially their mothers, still have the right to be happy by it.for that, a man must be clever to share his affection between mother and his wife. Therefore, for women should also support the husband to worship the parents. Perform a way to eliminate excessive jealousy.instead, you should do a happy way in-laws because it can bring a lot of blessing to your family.
- Avoid doing bad to the wife
In Islam it has been taught that women are created from crooked ribs. If forced to straight, then he will break. However, if left alone he will continue to bend.this is what a man should know and understand after marriage.
Naturally, if in the household there are many problems experienced. Sometimes, the wife errs and says something unpleasant to hear. However, if a man understands the above hadith, then he will be a man of understanding.he will be a man who patiently and gently treating his wife.
Not that he let his wife do wrong, but tried to straighten it with gentle advice and good words. Know how the husband treats his wife well. That way, she will learn from her mistakes without the need for a fight.the relationship will be more harmonious from day to day.
Keep improving yourself
As a husband and father, a man must be able to set a good example for his family. Errors are reasonable to do because it is human nature. However, a wise man should be able to make mistakes as a lesson.a man after marriage must be open to criticism, even criticism from his wife and child. It could be a way of changing the personality to be better from day to day.Prefer the family above all else
If you as a man really like to hang out with friends while still bachelor first, after marriage you should rule out your hobby.will be better if you go home immediately and have a meal with family at home. Follow your child's development. Know how to be a good parent, one of which is to give enough time to be there for her.
10, Be firm
It is a sure thing that a man should be able to be firm, especially if he is married.a man will be expected as a decision maker in the family. For that, he must know how to make the right decision and firmly with his decision. For that, a man must have courage and responsibility. However, do not ignore the input from the wife. Sometimes, a family problem can not be decided alone.
Warm regards,
live harmony.
