My wife has a lucrative career and earns much more than I do. I work as a social worker and bring in around $45,000 a year, while she works in finance and makes around $350,000 to $400,000 annually after taxes. We share our finances fairly, with her covering about 75% of the expenses, and I contribute 25%. To give some context, her parents both moved to this country with the hope of providing better opportunities for their children, and now all three siblings have very well-paying jobs—one in law and another in medicine. On the other hand, my family has always had more modest means, with my parents working in public sector jobs and my brother living off welfare, making us a lower-income household. My wife did step in to help my brother when he became a single parent by offering him an administrative job at her firm, but he quit after a short time, saying it was too challenging to balance with raising his child on his own, which I completely understand. Recently, her parents retired, and she and her sister each send them about $2,500 a month, which I think is excessive considering they already have pensions. When I questioned her about it, she assured me that this money doesn’t come from our joint account. However, when I suggested that my parents, who are also retired, could use some help as well, she responded that I should be the one to provide support from my own salary if I felt it was necessary. I was stunned and frustrated; my parents only have me to rely on, while her siblings make substantial incomes, so her parents are well taken care of either way. She argued that her parents sacrificed a lot to move here, and that it’s her responsibility to support them, while my parents are my responsibility. She believes I’m being unreasonable for asking her to help my family, especially since she’s never pressured me to contribute more to our shared expenses. We’ve had similar disagreements in the past, like when I asked her to help fund a down payment for my brother’s house, but she refused, saying she didn’t trust him to repay the loan. I’m having a hard time understanding why she’s so reluctant to support my family, especially given how much more she earns than I do. Am I wrong for asking her to assist my relatives?