SACRIFICE AND A TRUE SIGN OF APPRECIATION.
There are many other reasons for people's sacrifice, sacrifices reason are best known to the person making the sacrifice but most people do make sacrifices to be appreciated. Yes, appreciation is a true way of one showing the recognition of other people’s good deeds towards you. Sometimes sacrifice can be retracted if appropriate appreciation is not shown.
Growing up, my father will never finish his food, not because he can not finish it all but, he always wants his children to have a taste of his portion of food even while eating ours or after we have eaten ours. If we are lucky to see our father’s plate covered after he has eaten, definitely the rest is ours. After each meal we do thank God and our parents, it is a course one can't just carry over though, nobody will hold you to it but you will always feel it is necessary after each wonderfully prepared meal. Surprisingly,my parents will always say “thank you” back to us instantly. Why is that? We did show appreciation for the meal well prepared and we ate till satisfied but, my parents did say "thank you" to us for managing the little they provided for us. This habit never leaves us even when we eat out and pay for the food, we did still say thank you.
Like I said earlier, there are many reasons for people making sacrifices, some enjoy gratitude and appreciation, some do their deeds in silence, others seek and yearn for appreciation. You also have your own motive for giving up something of value for the sake of others but few attempts the hidden sacrifice. Among the few are Mothers.
Mothers are the most sacrificing, I am not justifying but, that role is theirs to work with. They are heavenly built to make sacrifices to the youngsters. Fathers can play the role too but it is a motherly role. Believe me, most of our mothers' sacrifices to us are hidden and no form of appreciation can be equal. Is it the sacrifice from being pregnant where everything they eat is with extreme precaution, their lifestyle shifts from self care to considering the care of the child in the womb. The bond between mothers and theirs children is just the real deal, they gave up and give to us;
- They gave up their sleep for our dream.
- give their best even at their worst
- gave up many things so we can have everything.
Along are many other sacrifices that just appreciation will never be equal yet, that is the only way to express our gratitude.
SELFLESSNESS OF SACRIFICE OR SELFISHNESS IN SACRIFICE
Appreciation can go beyond words of “thank you" though, the word can go a long way too. It is the true sign of appreciation. Many people expect it as a sign of recognition of their efforts. To some it is the fuel that energises doing more good or sacrificing more when appreciation is shown. Is showing appreciation or the utterance of the word 'thank you" and act of selflessness to those that utter it or an act of selfishness to those that are expecting it to be said or shown to acknowledge their sacrifices?
Back during my first degree programme, I belonged to a group of 6 friends. We all stay off campus and do almost everything together yet, as the saying goes “ fingers are not equal “ . It was exactly a week before my 400l 1st semester examination. The school fee portal will close in three days to the examination though, I am yet to make my payment but the money was already in my account 8days before the close date. My father sent my school fee while he was even on the sick bed unknown to me. They told me nothing because I was preparing for my examination, when things got worse they had to fill me in before it was too late.
Upon the news I transferred my school fees to pay for part of his treatment. I was angry at him for sending me money while his life is on the line. Then I tried borrowing but I could not meet their requirements. I hated disturbing family members like my uncles and aunties but at that point I needed every help I could get. I was not expecting this but, one of my friend from my group came to my hostel, I guess he had it all planned readily ahead, he then called his Dad, he placed a video call on the spot and narrated the all situation about my schooling with no questions asked from his father to me, except for my account details and before the call ended his dad already sent my school fees plus some extra to my account. It was a miracle of the last hour... all I kept saying was thank you sir and a lot of prayers. I can’t stop thanking my friend and his dad joyously and repeatedly I kept praying for their family. Then after the call ended my friend told me that the whole thank you here and there ended with the call. He wanted his good deed hidden, should others ask how I came by the fees payment, I can say anything I like but not his name nor his dad’s. I can’t just stop showing my gratitude as I clear my bill and join the examination.
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Even if it is one's responsibility, appreciation is needed, saying just “thank you” can help one gain more favour.
My father made a sacrifice though, I never thought of it as something huge because it was a hidden sacrifice until the situation was otherwise. Moreover he is my father yet, I appreciated it more when another did the same thing to me (my friend's dad pay my bill). So why not appreciate your own too (my father).Some sacrifices are made even when it is your responsibility, do well not to always expect “thank you” or any form of appreciation. Moreover, it is your duty or responsibility. This case will be of me sending back my school fees for part of my dad’s treatment.
Some people love hidden sacrifice just like my friend and his dad...appreciate them anyways, not openly but show your appreciation.
No amount of appreciation can equal any sacrifices made, just do well to show your appreciation.
Thank you for reading through. Do have a good day.