Everyone desires a love that lasts, a love that's sweet and adds no sorrow, a love that's peaceful, a smooth journey of love, but are we willing to do what it takes to make the couple love we so desire work? Do we nurture this love or do we have high expectations and expect it to be met magically? Read on as I write extensively on why some couple love we thought would last forever die so quickly.

Reason 1: When we win the heart of the one we desire, we feel we've finished the course.

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Beyond ultimately getting the girl to say yes and beyond becoming "his girl," there is more to love.When it comes to couple love, the journey is progressive. We can never finish doing everything or knowing everything all at once. As Couples, learning and adjustment never ends, both couples should be open to learning and be willing to adjust if the situation demands, there's a need for flexibility. It's not okay to just win his or her heart, you have to stay the winner because the competitors are still lurking around.

Reason 2: The issue of incompatibility

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Often, we gravitate toward attractive, well-groomed, or wealthy people, but we neglect to evaluate things like character, convictions, and seemingly insignificant details that are actually quite important. You can't go together if you're incompatible. Consider a biro and its cover. Although they do not resemble one another, the biro and the cover fit together whether you use it at the top or bottom. This is compatibility.

Let's use the example of a man who enjoys seeing women wear makeup for special events, but ends up dating or marrying someone who detests makeup and is unable to wear it. Before you two started dating, you probably weren't aware of this. When your girl/woman chooses to resist change and doesn't embrace the notion of applying makeup when necessary, it becomes a significant problem. You'd be shocked at how quickly this minor problem may turn into a major catastrophe.

Your companion is hot-tempered and you are too; this would be equivalent to genotypes SS + SS coming together. Because you two will be stoking their tempers during a dispute, one of you could kill the other. One individual must be the opposite of the other. Couples should complement one another and be compatible.

The need for perfection kills love very quickly. Couples must realize that there is no such thing as a flawless person. The road is much easier if you recognize that we are all flawed and expect mistakes, but when couples expect everything to go perfectly, there will be a significant problem.

Comparison is another major problem. No human, or at least none that I am aware of, is willing to be compared to someone else, especially when it's not for the best. Telling your partner to act in a certain way Mr A or B acts can become a cause of misunderstanding. It's different when you tell your partner to do something for you because you'll like it (you're simply communicating, telling him something you'll like). But when you require that he does it like the way you see another man/woman do it for his/her partner it might not end well. It's necessary to recognize your partner's strengths and weaknesses, support him or her in overcoming them, and avoid using them as a point of comparison.

Reason 4: Paying too much attention to social media.

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The greatest misleading "company" I know is social media. The media is filled with a lot of bogus news. Who is telling the truth and who is lying can never be so clearly distinguished. When you see a woman who is single post pictures of herself sitting on a man's lap without revealing the man's face, you become upset that your partner isn't doing the same for you. You then argue that your partner isn't romantic enough.
"My boo is the best on the globe," a woman will caption photos of various things she has received online. You'll see it and threaten to leave your man if he doesn't get you those things as well. A lot of people are losing good partners because they let themselves be mislead by social media and they want everything they see people put out there as well.

Reason 5: Third parties and hearsays

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This is one of the most common couple love spoilers. When someone meddles, when we tell everything about our relationship to a third party. When we allow our friends to feed us things they think about our partner. When we listen to what we heard on the street without verification. We allow people to meddle in our love life's unnecessarily, it's going to ruin things!
We shouldn't act based on speculation, we act based on verified facts. Sometimes these friends feeding you all this information don't mean well for your relationship.
Even on opinions we receive from other people, it's not all of it we should take into consideration. What works in your friend's relationship may ruin yours if you try it.

Reason 6: Inability to prioritize your lover

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The strangest and most ridiculous falsehood I've ever heard about people in love are people who claim to be too busy and for that reason are unable to call their partners in a day or two.

Do you have a favourite shoe or dress or anything you love? How do you take care of it? How's your attitude towards it? Using my phone for instance, I can't be away from it for too long except it's charging. I get bored and feel incomplete without it. I can't go a whole day without being with my phone so how much more a person I'm emotionally attached to?

When one partner starts to feel unimportant, the love between them begins to wane. You must take whatever steps are necessary to instil in your partner a sense of value. These are the things that let them know they are cherished, loved, and special.

These are the few points I had in mind for discussion today. I'll return with a sequel. Anticipate!