Reciban mi saludo, espero todos estén bien, su comunidad me parece interesante y de gran ayuda, en esa ruta que todos seguimos para aprender de los momentos críticos, felices, tristes, en fin todos los matices emocionales que día a día experimentamos en nuestras vidas.
Hoy mi reflexión es referente al duelo, comienzo aclarando que este momento que experimentamos de pérdida aplica para: trabajo, mascotas, amistades, seres queridos, un proyecto, en fin todo aquello que tiene una significación especial y ocupa un espacio en nuestras vida.
Uno se va a otro nivel existencial en mi caso mi esposo, ya descansa luego de una penosa y dolorosa enfermedad. El otro se queda, este es mi caso, woow! con el sentimiento de pérdida inmenso, es un sentir doloroso y hasta de enfado ,tu mente esta cegada, culpas de tu dolor al mundo entero y llegas a pensar que aún se podía hacer más,porque quién ya partió.
En la cultura latina, no estamos preparados para este momento de la muerte, a pesar de lo seguro que es, no nos educan para ello, a pasear de poseer seguros funerarios, no preparamos conscientemente este momento como en otras culturas europeas, orientales, entre otras que planean, vestuario, música, protocolo, es decir, el momento tal cual, esta en sus mentes, sin estar en los últimos momentos de sus vidas, digamos en su plenitud.
El duelo, te ciega tu mente, espíritu y quedas como incompleto, esto me paso a mi, sumida en una grandísima impotencia. Solo la misma vida, vuelve a ubicarte y te exige repotenciarte, equilibrarte, reencontrarte y lograr lo aceptación que tienes que continuar, reinventarte, cambiar rutinas, respetar tus recuerdos, tu tiempo vivido, agradecer por esa vida que disfrutaste con tu pareja y la fortuna de
haber coincidido en un tiempo y espacio destinado para ello.
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Nada fácil, es como volver a empezar pero con un cúmulo inmenso de aprendizajes, retomar responsabilidades de nuevo individualmente sin el otro, muy duro vencer esa sensación de no poder y cada día, ir abordando cada uno de estos temas que ahora son tuyos, sabes como hacerlo y no queda de otra.
Pude comprender que era primordial el avanzar ir retomando todos los días algo que había dejado de realizar, por desmotivacion, era necesario, casi obligado vencer esas ganas de no seguir, porque nada tenía el mismo valor y así fui retomando y creando nuevas rutinas, amigos, en fin, otra vez, nuevamente y paso a paso recuperar, mi equilibrio, la paz interior y la sanación espiritual.
Es un camino largo convivir con el DUELO , pero solo uno mismo tiene la fortaleza de saber en cual tiempo de tu vida lo vas a superar, hay que vivirlo y cada día esforzarnos por superarlo y comenzar a
vivir otra historia, dejar que la alegría, vuelva a habitar nuestras vidas y cuando la nostalgia nos envuelva, recibirla con amor, dejarla fluir y luego asumir el presente y continuar,tratando cada día de ser mejor persona y aceptando que nada en la vida es permanente,así que disfrutemos todo
lo vivido y lo que nos quede por vivir.
La vida golpea fuerte pero también nos permite reencontrarnos con nuestra fortaleza interior, crecer, sanar y encontrar la paz, recordándonos abrazar cada momento vivido con gratitud.
Me despido hasta otra oportunidad de encuentro.
![English Version]
I hope you are all well, I find your community interesting and helpful, in that route that we all follow to learn from the critical moments, happy, sad, in short all the emotional nuances that we experience every day in our lives.Today my reflection is about grief, I begin by clarifying that this moment of loss that we experience applies to: work, pets, friends, loved ones, a project, in short, everything that has a special significance and occupies a space in our lives.
In my case, my grief, when I lost my husband, a union of 30 years, a life.
It is incredible, society tells you things and you listen, you become a professional, you get your car, you create your savings, you start a business, you travel, you get married, you form a family and life goes by until the time comes for one of you, for that couple that decided to undertake a life project, at a certain moment.One goes to another existential level, in my case my husband, he is resting after a painful and painful illness. The other one stays, this is my case, wow! with the feeling of immense loss, it is a painful and even angry feeling, your mind is blinded, you blame the whole world for your pain and you come to think that you could still do more, because who is already gone?
In the Latin culture, we are not prepared for this moment of death, in spite of the certainty that it is, we are not educated for it, to walk to possess funeral insurance, we do not consciously prepare this moment as in other European, Oriental cultures, among others that plan, costumes, music, protocol, that is to say, the moment as it is, is in their minds, without being in the last moments of their lives, let's say in its fullness.
Grief blinds your mind, spirit and you are left incomplete, this happened to me, immersed in a great impotence. Only life itself, relocates you and demands that you re-power yourself, balance yourself, find yourself again and achieve the acceptance that you have to continue, reinvent yourself, change routines, respect your memories, your time lived, be grateful for that life you enjoyed with your partner and the fortune of having coincided in a time and space destined for it.
and the fortune of having coincided in a time and space destined for it.Nothing easy, it is like starting all over again but with a huge amount of learning, taking on responsibilities again individually without the other, very hard to overcome that feeling of not being able to and every day, to address each of these issues that are now yours, you know how to do it and there is no other way.
I was able to understand that it was essential to move forward by taking up again every day something that I had stopped doing, due to lack of motivation, it was necessary, almost obligatory to overcome the desire not to continue, because nothing had the same value and so I went on taking up and creating new routines, friends, in short, again, and step by step recovering my balance, inner peace and spiritual healing.
It is a long road to live with grief, but only you have the strength to know in what time of your life you are going to overcome it, you have to live it and every day strive to overcome it and begin to live another story, let joy return to inhabit our lives and when nostalgia envelops us, receive it with love, let it flow and then assume the present and continue, trying every day to be a better person.
Let joy come back to inhabit our lives and when nostalgia envelops us, receive it with love, let it flow and then assume the present and continue, trying every day to be a better person and accepting that nothing in life is permanent, so let's enjoy everything we have lived and what we have left to live.
what we have lived and what we have left to live.Life hits hard but it also allows us to rediscover our inner strength, grow, heal and find peace, reminding us to embrace every moment lived with gratitude.
I bid you farewell until another opportunity to meet