We lives in an environments where different people of different culture, religious , tribes and beliefs lived. And People behaved differently, some people have bad character while other has good character or behavior. If someone character towards you makes you feels offensivé or angry either due to the way the person has spoken to you or how the person behaves towards negativity can make you lose respect for the person. Yes, you can lose a respect you have for someone due to the kind of negative constant attitudes that person has been exhibiting in your presence.
And when the respect and dignity and values you have for that person began to sink down in you, you totally loss respect for the person.
There's an elderly man staying close to our house, he is a married man with two children. But the man is an addict alcoholic drunkard. Most of the time when he comes back home at night drunk , he will béat his wife and he displayed constant maltréatment from him to the wife has made me loss respect I have for him. At times at night the man's wife will run and come to our house, crying and begging my mother to save her from that useléss man that wants to kíll her.
I remembered my mother and father has talked countless times to the man over his rudé behavior towards the wife each other he is drunk. And the annoying part is that the man doesn't seems to see anything bad over his attitudes of constant beating and molésting his wife. Instead he will complaint that the wife doesn't cook for him, do this and that.
I have seen the woman cried over time and have seen many times how he maltréated the wife almost every night he is around. The alcohol the man has been drinking and getting drunk has corrúpt or polluted his mind and sense and doesn't have any conscious over his bad behavior towards his wife again.
Because of such kind of behavior and attitude I have seen from the man, I don't show any respect for him, I've loss respect completely for the man.
Another experienced I had that made me loss respect for one married woman is that the woman is a constant and chronic chéat. Are you surprised hearing me saying a married woman is a constant and chronic chéat? Oh yeah even me I was shocked and surprised when I saw the woman.
In my community, there's this couple who often fíght a lot, infact in my village this couple are known for their constant Fighting in the community. Even children knows them as fíghting couple. My father is the chief head of my community, so I see cases alot everytime am at home. Sometimes early in the morning we will hear someone is knocking at the gate and when we went to open the gate, you will see a man or a woman comes with a complaint to my father.
This woman have six children and she's a chronic chéat. This woman will leave her husband's house and children and follow another man go sleep with him. Like, a married woman leaving her husband and be sleeping with another man outside. The man knew his wife has this kind of behavior and most at time people tells him everything and even the man his wife is having affairs with. Most are times the woman will be caught inside another man's house and will brought to my father for a charge or case.
At times my father will tell them is a family issue just that the man won't involved police in the matter. But I remembered so many times the woman was caught sleeping with another man and once she was caught in the act, she never shows any signs of remorse or shame. Like she has been caught and known for sleeping around, a married woman for that matter yet no remorse feelings in her. Each time I came across the woman I will be feeling like this woman doesn't know the kind of shame she brought to her home and especially her children. Such kind of a woman have made me loss respect for her .
Lastly, this experience was one of my Uncle in the community. This my uncle is a thief, he steals people's farm produces in the farm, steal machine and house materials at people's house if those people are not at home. This constant stealing attitudes had made me loss respect for my uncle. Every time he was caught and brought to the community leaders and was beaten, he will promise never to steal again yet after few weeks or months he will be caught stealing.
He will say something and does another thing differently. His constant stealing attitudes has damaged my relationship with him as an uncle. Even when he talk to me over some things, I don't take his advice or opinion to my heart. People will talk to him to stop this stealing attitude but he will display no show change through his actions. Because of such behavior I stayed far away from him, I used to avoid him to protect myself and peace because of his constant stealing attitude.
People see whatever you are doing, nothing is hidden. As a married man or woman, or an adult, everything you are doing people are watching you especially the children. Do what will make people respect you and see your worth in the community.
Do things that people will continues to come asking and seeking for solution and advice from you. Let's your character and behavior show your self worth and dignity. We are a reflection of what we do daily in life, whatever we do affect people either positive or negative. Become an example to other by how you live your life.