― Anthony Liccione
My approach of thinking about distrust is based on the Anthony Liccione quotation cited earlier. Regardless matter how much we talk about it, we all experience distrust in one way or another. We all have a tale to tell about it; we just hope it isn't so terrible that it spoils or destroys our lives.
Blossom, my dear friend who always seems to be trying something new in the dating world. Her never-ending quest for the ideal soul mate comes at a cost of having her heart broken by various individuals.
The idea of a relationship for her is based on a love world between herself and her supposed lover, but instead he has been cheating on her with other women, every relationship brings the same issue—cheating. Her love language is words of affirmation, but what she has been receiving are words of lies and deceit that she is unaware of.
Every relationship makes her question whether love is genuine or simply a myth. Men appear to come and go, but none refuse to stay, or more specifically, she refuses to be made a side babe. Every morning, she asks herself, "How do I trust these men again? How can I be sure the next man I meet wouldn't cheat on me?"
Two young men after spending five years in college studying engineering, Sule and Michael received their degrees. They both want achievements in life, and the concept was that while they were brothers, they would rise together from poverty to wealth.
The foundation of their friendship is the fact that they both share similar objectives, and as time goes on, opportunities present themselves to each of them as the business plan they both wrote was being accepted.
Sule and Michael were on track to join the Forbes List with their ground-breaking concept, but at the last minute, Michael sneakily went around Sule's back to make a proposal that would only be in his name and benefit him personally.
Sule learns of this news in a very painful way. He is reminded of the years he spent with Michael, who was supposed to be his brother, friend, and incoming investor, but Michael had other ideas. Sule has never been so sad or angry, and he asks himself rhetorically: "How did this happen? Is it real? Am I dreaming? Why would Michael betray my trust with him?"
When I was a small child growing up, there were a few instances where my parents' promises were violated accidentally. There was a good rationale for those actions, but generally it influenced how I felt.
The upbringing was functioning as it should, but over time I began to feel like most of my parents' promises were little more than practical jokes, and I lost faith in their ability to be trusted when they said things like, "I'm coming" or "I'll be waiting for you to get dressed so we can go out,"
Every time they said that, it seemed like a joke to let them get away, but did it make me feel like I cannot trust them?-Yes, a few times.
― George Eliot, Middlemarch
Given that I am familiar with these tales and can speak for everyone when I say that we have all experienced what it means to lose trust, I can confidently claim that while friendships and ties are frequently extremely difficult to form, they can be destroyed in a matter of seconds. No matter how many years are invested in creating a relationship, it will never be the same since TRUST has been shattered; this is the difficult truth of ending a relationship.
The emotion of mistrust is followed by a reaction, much as Newton's Third Law asserts that "For every action there is a reaction." It is primarily an outpouring of hatred and anger, a profound sense of betrayal, and a loss of purpose or in what one should believe.
It must rank among the worst emotions a person may experience. Even though I understand the suffering, I am extremely interested in finding strategies to make ourselves feel better when faced with mistrust.
Communication is the key to preventing this feeling of mistrust, and I strongly urge people to understand that having an honest and productive conversation will not do any harm. We should develop the ability to accept and communicate with individuals honestly.
I should be able to understand your intentions toward me, what you are capable of doing, and your weaknesses so that we can navigate through life. You cannot just win over trust; you must earn it. However, it starts with holding you accountable for your statements.
If you must demonstrate trust, you should have to do it to the end, in the rain or the sun—your trust should never be in doubt. Try not to become tired; this is one of the reasons people give up quickly and plant the germ of suspicion.
Since it would help you make decisions in every situation that can jeopardize our relationship of trust, I must recognize that integrity is a fundamental aspect of your human being.
We should work twice as hard to be willing to set boundaries for the foundation of our relationships, and reassuring to settle insecurities brought on by mistrust would really go a long way in making and assisting people feeling that way to be better. Let us learn to be a little more patient with ourselves and seek to develop ourselves more as human beings.
This is where I draw the curtain on this month's subject, and I aim to convey more feelings and emotions through stories that reflect how I feel on a regular basis.
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